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What to do if you feel people hate you

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 It’s impossible to make everyone happy even when you’re doing everything right (Shutterstock)

Experiencing hate from other people is something unavoidable. Not everyone will love you, remember that!

It’s impossible to make everyone happy even when you’re doing everything right and treating others well.

Although people will dislike you, you should never let it control your life.

Here are some of the things you can do if you feel hated for one reason or another.

Be honest with yourself

Sometimes, the things we do can lead people to dislike us. We’re not perfect and we make mistakes as human beings. By honestly assessing situations and taking responsibility for your actions, you start to heal from some of the toxic trends you might have and burn less bridges while interacting with people. Apologize for hurting people you love and work on your emotions.

Ignore the haters

There are times when people hate others for no legitimate reason. Some of them are miserable and they project how they feel about themselves to others. This happens a lot on social media when people start attacking those who have done nothing wrong. Most of the times, you’ll find that they are jealous of you and bitter because of your achievements. The best way to deal with this type of hate is to simply ignore them. Besides, haters can be the best motivation you’ll ever need.

Focus on being productive

Being focused on your goals is important for many reasons. It pushes you closer to your dreams and it helps you ignore the less important things. You won’t have to spend your time thinking and obsessing over those who don’t like you when you’re busy with your own goals. Get into a routine every day and prepare a to-do list to help you avoid idle time. It’s during those idle periods when negative thoughts and emotions start to fill your mind.

Stay focused on your gym routine, work schedule and other personal goals you have for the week and with time, your attention will shift to important things.

 You need to accept your flaws and work on your mean inner critic (Shutterstock)
Find encouraging friends

Surround yourself with encouraging individuals because positive people will help you get through these negative emotions. There are times when those thoughts overwhelm you and make it hard to function so it’s better to get in touch with friends who genuinely appreciate you for who you are. Don’t close yourself off from the world because this will only make the negative thoughts louder. Instead, go out more and meet up with your friends when you can.

Be your own cheer leader

Sometimes you just have to pat yourself on the back. Take up the role of being your own cheerleader in life. By accepting your flaws and working on your mean inner critic, soon you will stop allowing negative emotions to take center stage. If you don’t keep these things in check, any negative thing said will start to control your every move. You’ll start to put yourself down and find yourself drowning in depression.

We can never avoid backlash so the best thing to do is to strengthen your self-love, self-confidence and self-esteem fortress.

Talk to a therapist

It’s not always easy to ignore the hate you receive from others. Many struggle with it so you’re never alone. If you reach a point where it’s deeply affecting you, your daily life, and your relationship with others, you’ll need to get in touch with an expert.

Getting in touch with a therapist doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with you. In fact, they are often the best solution because they can deeply assess how you feel and give you professional advice.

They help to get the root cause of how you feel and you’ll realize that those thoughts and emotions are just a symptom of unhealed pasts.

What makes you happy?

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