The Sina famed singer and songwriter Lavender Bunde believes that hard work, and strong belief and trust in God are the best tools one can ever wish for to prosper. She is also a South Africa trained pastor and prides herself in winning souls for Christ. Having been married early, at 35 she has five children including last born twins she got while pursuing her medical course. She shares her experience and drive to be able to juggle all three- motherhood, gospel life and medical career
Tell us a little about yourself
I’m married to Pastor Robert Abrahams, and together we are blessed with two girls and three boys. We stay in Bungoma, and are involved in the Light World International Ministry together with my husband who is the lead pastor. Other than ministry, I am a clinical officer at Bungoma County Referral and Teaching hospital.
What does being a clinical officer, musician and mother entail?
It is great but crazy. At times it is draining but I have a good partner who is understanding. At times, when I get overwhelmed, I take some time out to help me maintain my composure and be productive.
What are the opportunities available for women in the field of clinical health/medicine?
Opportunities are available and there is no single opportunity restricted to either women or men. The problem, however, is that a small part of the population still feel male medics are better than female medics and truth is it's a bit challenging trying to prove yourself all the time.
You have been engaged in gospel music for a while. What’s your take on the Kenyan gospel music industry? What would you change about it?
I have been singing since I was a little girl and music is a part of me that I love so much. Looking at the current gospel music industry, many artists have forgotten that it's a ministry and not a business. They want to make money, money, and more money forgetting that our first mandate is to make disciples. Right now what gospel artists want is a comfortable life at the expense of winning souls for Christ. I think the result has been a pretty messed up industry, which is a shame.
Which other artists motivate you and who would you love to have a collabo with and why?
Well, I think Kanjii Mbugua, Mercy Masika and Joyce Omondi are great. I would love to do a collabo with Kanjii Mbugua. I love his way of doing music.
How did you get into music?
My big sister inspired me. I always followed her to church and whenever she stood up to sing I would stand too and sing along. My mum supported my singing since that tender age, and so did my Sunday school teachers. I owe them.
You are also a minister of the gospel…
Yes, I’m a minister. I studied theology for two years at Victory Bible School in South Africa. I am a youth pastor at my church and I enjoy working with young people.
As a mother, what lessons do you hope to pass on to your children?
I would love my children to know that working hard is okay but walking with Christ Jesus is priceless. Teaching and instilling in them biblical principles is the best legacy I can leave to them- so that one day we can spend eternity forever together.
What is the biggest lesson marriage has taught you?
Marriage has taught me to be patient, flexible, loving and forgiving. We married young and this is our fourteenth year together. Just like every other relationship, there are trying moments and learning to stay strong, kind, supportive even when I’m at my lowest has helped me a lot. It is the biggest gift you can give to your marriage. Learning to contain anger is also a big lesson I have learnt in marriage. Keeping quiet and avoiding words that will hurt rather than build goes a long way in ensuring issues don’t go overboard.
What in your opinion can encourage women to step out of their comfort zones and exploit their full potentials?
A woman must be fierce and determined. Having the right friends who encourage you and push you is a sure way to reaching your full potential even as you commit all your plans to the Lord and allowing Him to establish your thoughts.
If you had to start from scratch, what would you do differently?
If I had to start from scratch, I would probably work harder at school and not concentrate on my fears.
How do you motivate yourself and stay motivated?
Looking into the eyes of my babies keeps me motivated. Just like any parent, I want them to have the best in life and that has always kept me motivated.
Do you have a mentor to guide you through this journey?
I have received inspiration and mentorship from a whole lot of special people and above all Christ.
In summary what are the five tips you would give women who are looking to step out and make an impact in the society?
1: Stay focused
2: Stay humble
3: Don't forget where you are from
4: Listen before you speak
5: Build on Christ, you will never be shaken.