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Intimacy gone wrong: Gentlemen, here’s why your woman always pretends to have headaches

I couldn’t help but think just how clueless men are as to why a woman’s sex drive starts to dwindle after marriage and kids

I am tired of hearing married men whining about their wives not putting out often enough. I recently overheard a man moaning to his friend about his supposed scant sex life. The self-proclaimed sexually starved man was going on and on about how sex with his wife was not as exciting as it used to be before getting married and having kids.

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He claimed that he they had gone from getting it on at least twice a day to once or twice a month, when lucky. He was saying that his better half was starting to feel more like a roommate than a wife because of the lack of regular bedroom action.

He finished his rant by jokingly saying he was considering getting himself a hot, young mistress to be fulfilling his sexual needs, since the situation at home wasn’t looking like it was going to improve any time soon.

As I listened to him raise a stink about his situation, I couldn’t help but think just how clueless men are as to why a woman’s sex drive starts to dwindle after marriage and kids. A lot of husbands out there believe that that their wives usually turn down their sexual come ons simply because they are mean. Nothing could be further from the truth.

Nine out of ten times your wife refuses to sleep with you because she is tired and stressed. Men don’t understand this because they think sex is the same for women as it is for them.

Men can’t imagine why a woman wouldn’t want to have sex after a stressful day of cooking cleaning and parenting. Being a housewife is physically and emotionally draining. You see, when a woman is stressed and tired, she can’t relax enough to have sex. Even if she gives into your demands, she will not enjoy the sex.

If it were up to her, you would not even be getting that bimonthly tepid sex you are getting. Women need to relax to feel turned on. Your demand for sex after she has had a long stressful day is certainly not going to get her hot and bothered.

Men are easily turned on and sex is for them is always pleasurable, no matter the circumstances. This is not the case for women. First of all, a lot f women grapple with low sex drive to start with.

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If you add the constant stress of raising kids and running a household all by herself on top of that and what little energy she had for sex will be gone. What married men don’t realize is that the solution to not getting enough sex rests squarely on their shoulders.

If you want more sex, simply help her out with household chores and taking care of the children or alternatively, find someone who can do that like a househelp or a nanny. That’s it! Ridiculously simple, right?

Lighten her workload and you will be back to getting it on o the regular.

This may sound ridiculous to male chauvinists who believe that a woman should always be happy and willing to have sex whenever they demand and that they shouldn’t be manipulated into doing housework in exchange of sex.

Well, that attitude right there is why you will continue going to bed with blue balls!

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