Be on the lookout for people who want to steal your partner!!

There are people who are of the opinion that when it comes to matters of the heart, just because there is a goalie doesn’t mean you can’t score. To them, even a person in a relationship is fair game.

They have no qualms or conscience about pursuing a person who is already taken. I am not talking about married people. Most people agree that married people are out of bounds, unless you are being motivated by something else, such as money. I am talking about a person who is not married but is in a relationship. If you developed feelings for such a person, would you pursue him or her? Is it morally wrong to go after such a person? We are always told to go after what we want and not to let anything stop us from getting it. Does it apply in this situation?

There is something profoundly enticing about the people we should not – or cannot – have. It is human nature to want things that are unavailable. Perhaps we are wishful thinkers, naively hoping nothing will turn into something, or maybe we are masochists, enjoying the pain of a desire we can’t quench. We want to show that there is no such thing as unattainable. That the limitations do not apply to us. That rules can always be worked around.

What have you done for the first time lately?

As a person looking at a relationship from the outside, it is easy to make absolute judgments about the relationship. It is easy for you to look at that man and think how much better you would be for him. You think he would be much happier with you than with his current girlfriend.

The truth is that you have no idea what their relationship is actually like at an intimate level, so it is quite presumptuous for you to assume you would be better for him. No matter how casual a relationship looks on the surface, never assume you can just walk in and shake things up. Going after someone else’s girlfriend or boyfriend is always a risky thing. You must be sure that you are seriously attracted to this person and that you are not just fooling around.

You just can’t go breaking people up because of a little crush. Go about it thoughtfully with consideration for the others involved. Assess your chances by analysing the people in the relationship that you might end up destroying. Are they happy together? Does the man you want to steal complain about his partner? Has he at least said he has feelings for you? If your feelings are not reciprocated even a little bit, it is best to give up and not interfere with the relationship. You might succeed in breaking them up, but if he has no feelings for you, what good will that be?

If you do manage to pull him out of a relationship, be prepared for anything. Nostalgia and sadness might kick in and make him decide to go back to his partner and once they get back together, their relationship will be stronger than ever since they would have overcome the worst. You will be left miserable and hurting. Also, don’t be surprised if the woman whose man you are trying to steal marks her territory with her fists.