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If your boyfriend has female friends 'he's not into you', claims dating coach

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Anna also believes that men shouldn't talk to other women if they are pursuing a romantic relationship with you (Photo: Shutterstock)

Wondering why your beau isn't taking things to the next level?

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Dating coach Anna Bey is here to tell you why.

Anna runs the School of Affluence online where she gives women tips on how to, according to Daily Star, bag a wealthy man.

The Swedish influencer, who is married to a banker, says it can be challenging to get men to commit - and not just those with high-flying jobs that she speaks about.

In a recent YouTube video she shared seven red flags that you should be looking out for to see whether your man is "wasting your time."

1. Regularly cancelling on plans

Anna says you definitely shouldn't bother wasting any time on a man who regularly cancels on your plans.

She argued: "A man is really not into you if he cancels at the last minute…

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"If he is being flaky, he’s not valuing you. Remember to value yourself."

2. Being inconsistent

Men who are unsure about whether they want a relationship or not are less likely to settle down.

Indecisiveness is a major red flag.

Anna said: "Being unsure of his feelings is a big warning sign.

"Bad boys are a waste of time."

3. Chatting to other women

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Now the next one is a little controversial.

Anna also believes that men shouldn't talk to other women if they are pursuing a romantic relationship with you - not even friends.

She added: "If he is talking to other girls on social media - even friends - that is a massive disrespect to you.

"Believe me, if he is really into you, he won't even be interested in talking to other girls. They're keeping their options open."

Anna teaches women "modern elegance" (Image: schoolofaffluence/Instagram)

4. Spending too much time apart

Whilst it's "healthy" to spend time with other people, she thinks this shouldn't happen regularly.

She argued: "When he starts wanting a lot of space away 'with his boys' is a red flag.

"This shows he's not making you his top priority, and he's making you the second option after his friends"

5. Being obsessed with their phone

This may seem trivial, but spending excessive amounts of time on their phone can suggest that they're not interested in spending quality time with you - especially if they're still scrolling when you're talking.

Anna said: "If he'd rather spend time on his phone than spend time with you, this is another warning sign.

"Men who are madly in love with their partners will prioritise you and put their phone aside for quality time."

6. Not spoiling you

Anna thinks men who spend money on you are more likely to care about you - another of her opinions that sparks debate.

She believes: "Money is a love language and if you are really into somebody, you want to give that person the world.

"When a man is being stingy with you, it is often a warning sign that he is not sure of his interest in you."

7. He ghosts on you

And the final red flag is if your man doesn’t reply to your messages pretty quickly.

Whilst this could just mean that they're busy, Anna says this just proves they have more important priorities.

Anna said: "If you haven't heard from him in a while, he may just not be that into you.

"He won't take a whole day to respond to you if he's really into you."

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