Why fighting in relationships can make you a stronger couple

It’s only natural that arguments happen from time to time. We often find ourselves engaged in arguments with our friends, relatives and partners over certain issues we feel need to be addressed.

When it comes to relationships, it’s not any different. Arguments will happen. Some experts consider it toxic but there’s a lot that you and your partner can learn from those tough days when you aren’t getting along.

Arguments can only give room for a strong relationship when it’s constructive and coming from a loving place.

If you’re curious as to how fights can strengthen your relationship, here are a few pointers on how that goes

Fights help you learn from your mistakes as a couple. This is a fact especially when you learn to appreciate one another after moving on from arguments that could have led to a breakup. This increases intimacy and helps you realize that certain things weren’t worth arguing over while others were worth being addressed during those disagreements.

During arguments, a lot of truth usually comes out. You realize how your partner truly feels about you and vice versa. It’s normal for couples to tip-toe around certain things so that feelings aren’t hurt but in such scenarios, there is open and honest communication between you. You both say how you really feel without filters and this is very important for couples. At this point, you are both able to assess each other’s true motives and shed light on underlying issues that you otherwise wouldn’t address on other days.

It’s also important because if there are any red flags, they’ll come out. Through such times, you can gauge whether the relationship is worth fighting for or not.

One of the cores of healthy and strong relationships is individuality. Before getting together, you were both living your own lives which is something that draws you to one another. Because of that, arguing as a couple also shed light on some of your character flaws. Since the truth usually comes out when things are a little heated, you can take that feedback positively and work on becoming better for you and your partner.

You learn virtues like patience and self-control when you notice things are getting too heated. This new insight also reflects in other spheres of life like your workplace which is a huge plus.

Undoubtedly, relationships can be trying. There are things that challenge the peace of a relationship every day and a lot of maintenance is needed for a strong bond. On certain days, small issues pop up and this can add a lot of weight and tension in the relationship. We all have flaws when it comes to communicating how we truly feel and this unfortunately leaves a lot of unresolved issues. When you reach a point of frustration and arguments erupt, you release a lot of stress, tension, resentment and frustration which is good for your mental and emotional health.

This, however, isn’t an excuse to remove all your frustration on your partner. This is a risky move that damages relationships so always ensure that you argue and dress issues in a loving way.

Always keep in mind that there is a difference between loving arguments that are constructive and hurtful arguments between couples. Loving arguments never escalate to physical fights and emotional damage because they come from a place of love even through these difficult times.