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He broke things off and said he wasn't 'feeling it any more' but now, just as I'm getting to know someone else, he's asking me to try again
Dear Coleen
My boyfriend (now ex) recently broke it off with me after a year of dating because he wasn’t “feeling it any more”.
Now, two months later, just when I’ve started getting to know someone else (which he doesn’t know about), he wants to get back together, “settle down and maybe start a family”.
That’s the one thing I have always wanted.
I’m 28, so getting to the age where I want a family. But is he offering this to please me or just because it suits him? He won’t answer the question!
He keeps telling me how he has serious trust issues and difficulty seeing the good in people after his ex did the works on him and their young daughter.
Coleen says
Be careful. Don’t just jump straight back into a relationship. It could be that he’s feeling a bit lonely and hasn’t met anyone else and he’s panicking.
I find it difficult to believe that in two months he suddenly wants to settle down and have kids.
However, he knows that’s what you want, so it’s a good way of enticing you back.
If you still have strong feelings for him, I wouldn’t say don’t consider it, but take it slowly. Make sure it’s what he really wants and he’s not just saying it to please you.
Tell him he has to discuss it or he doesn’t have a hope of getting back together with you.
What you don’t want to happen is that six months after having a baby or getting married, he’s unhappy and resents you because, deep down, it wasn’t what he wanted at all.
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