Coming back to work after divorce, three things you need to know

There is nothing simple about going through divorce. What even takes more energy from you is the fact that divorce is a process, not an event. Therefore, by the time you are appending the last signature on the last piece of paper, you are all but worn out. Yet, it is not over, you have to come back to work and deliver. Below is a list of pointers on what you need to keep in mind upon your return.

1. Do not expect to be handled with kid gloves

Your boss or your colleagues owe you no special treatment. In fact, nobody does, except of course, the nigga who put you through hell. However, understand that other people may also be dealing with their own share of life’s troubles. Their stress may not be as big as you believe yours are, but please understand that nobody owes you anything. Which leads to the second point…

2. Special treatment has nothing to do with your calamities

If a friend offers to buy you lunch, or walk with you home, please take it. There is nothing belittling about accepting help. Everybody needs it, in whatever capacity. Whether a chat, or even monetary help, please accept it. It does not mean you are incapable of having your ducks in a row. Coming from a divorce tears one down financially as well, unless divorce lawyers suddenly started accepting bananas as payment. Even if they did you would need to buy the bananas with, yes, you guessed it, money. Be ready to take help. It is in so doing that you understand what it would mean to someone else if they needed you to hold their hand.

3. Stay away from romantic relationships – at least not office romance

Relationships are about giving your best form. Soon after dealing with divorce, you are anything but your best form. Some people may argue that for one to forget one person, they get involved with someone else, you know, dressing up and stepping out. There is a fine line on boundaries here though that you need to always keep in mind. Ask yourself whether you are ready to be emotionally involved with someone else. Having said that, think about what the office means to you. Perhaps, it is the only part of your life that has remained steady. You do not want to ruin it by creating an awkwardness that comes with a nasty break up.

All in all, it has been said that when a woman walks out of a relationship physically, it is only because she had walked out emotionally a long time ago. Always be on the lookout for small victories and fun moments in your life that build you up, from the divorce melee you just battled. Good luck, keep slaying!