Signs that the man you are seeing does not have long term plans for your relationship

Dear Roxanne,

I feel very frustrated because the guy I have been seeing for weeks will not refer to me as his girlfriend. We do all sorts of things that a girlfriend and boyfriend do and I am not seeing anybody else and neither is he, so I don’t understand why it is so hard for him to make it official that I am his girlfriend. Is it really that big of a deal? Why won’t he call me his girlfriend?

Mary Ann.

Dear Mary Ann,

I totally understand your frustrations. A lot of women have been there and have learnt that badgering a man with type of thing will only make him push you away. He is either commitment phobic or just feeling comfortable with the way things are. The only thing you can do is to try and be in the same league with him when it comes your level of commitment in the relationship. Learn to do your own thing.

On the other hand, it could be that he does not want a long term relationship with you if he still does not have a title for you. It is better to guard your heart until you are certain that he is ready to go a mile further. If he hasn’t introduced you to his close friends or family that could be a red light warning that he does not intent to take it to the next level with you.

Plan activities that do not involve him. Keep your time and company only as available as he is willing to be and definitely keep your options open incase he was just stringing you along. If he sees this change in you, he will want to step up take the relationship to the next level. If he doesn’t, good riddance. I hope this helps.

Good luck!