What to do when you find yourself in a relationship rut

The reality about relationships is, there will never be a perfect couple. We often compare our relationships to others only to realize that things aren’t always what they seem.

The phases every couple might experience, even the healthy ones are, the exciting phases like the honeymoon phase and the not-so-fun seasons.

The longer you have been together the more you get into a monotonous routine which is admittedly boring.

When you are going through a relationship rut, you will start to feel like the spark you had is slowly becoming dimer and although you still love your partner, you’re longing to have those fun moments again.

If that pretty much describes your situation currently, don’t panic. It is a normal stage of every relationship and that does not necessarily mean something is wrong or give you the go ahead to cheat in search of something exciting.

Do this instead:

If you don’t know about this phase when it comes to relationships, you might end up making the mistake of thinking the solution is to dump your partner. This season always feels like there are greener pastures somewhere else but that is not true and is never the case.

The reality is that regardless of who you’re with, you will experience some dull or low moments which are very normal.

It is better to work through it and learn ways you can spark the happiness again than choose the highway because you will regret it.

Often, areas like career and parenting become more of a priority than your relationship. By the time you get a few hours together, you’re too tired to notice each other and probably want to catch up on your latest series before bed.

After a while, you forget what your relationship means to you.

To keep this from happening, you should prioritize your relationship because it’s just as important as other areas of life.

Also, keep the distractions out of the bedroom and be more intentional with the time you spend together.

You shouldn’t expect your partner to read your mind and automatically know what you’re thinking. Healthy communication should be something you do as a couple because that is one of the main ways you will understand each other’s needs.

If you feel like your sex life isn’t as exciting anymore or that they’ve been neglecting you for a while, talk to them about it.

I’m sure they will be willing to make changes and you will slowly start to fall in love with them all over again.

Doing fun, spontaneous things together has always been a secret trick to a happy relationship. Right now, you’re so used to the normal, bland routine and what you might need is some fun.

Maybe it’s been a while since you enjoyed some activities you loved to do when you first fell in love like going for nature walks or taking road trips together. This is the right time to try and revive the fun.

A relationship rut can be a symptom of something deeper. It often happens when you stop prioritizing the relationship for too long or when there are relationship issues that keep triggering these seasons.

Recurring issues that have not been resolved could be the root cause.

If you suspect this may be the case, you need to have a serious conversation or maybe go for couple’s counselling to work the issues through.