Four ways constantly using your phone is destroying your relationship

Traditionally, sex, finances and kids have topped the charts as the major reasons for conflict in relationships. However, over time, the use of smartphones has increased. This has had its advantages and disadvantages. 

As regards relationships, while communication has become easier and multi-faceted, there have been increased conflicts caused by these devices. How does constantly being online affect relationships in the long run? Read on to find out.

1. You don't prioritize your partner

When your phone pings to alert you to a message and you stop what you’re doing to attend to it, the message you are sending is, “What I’m doing on my phone is more important than you right now”. It may also send the message that your partner is more interested in their phone than in you or you’re not worthy of their attention. Failing to prioritize conversation with your partner as you enjoy with other people out there is disrespectful and brings about spite in the relationship. Everyone loves to be valued and smartphones can make you feel the exact opposite.

2. Missing out on the here and now

You may have seen a couple sitted in a restaurant and instead of talking to each other they are busy scrolling their phones. This common habit prevents you from experiencing the moment. You miss out on connecting with your partner uninterrupted. You’re allowing your phones to pull you apart, dragging you into the unreal world of social media. 

3. Can lead to comparison 

Let's face it, if you are constantly using social media, especially passively, you could end up comparing yourself to others. When you see pictures of other people’s gifts, travels, date nights, etc., you may begin to question why your partner doesn’t do the same for you. You might even start wishing your partner looked like so and so, or had this or that job. You could even end up losing interest in your partner. You could end up pressuring your partner to behave like people you see online and this could cause strife. 

4. Steals your deep conversations

Spending all your time talking to others online steals away from the time you could be speaking to those who are physically present in your life. Just as you seek to make connections with others online, you should strive to build your current relationships. One way to do this is by putting your phone away so that you can concentrate on having meaningful conversations. 

Even with the whole world at the palm of our hands, it's important to know that your partner remains your top priority and the person you should invest in the most. Failure to do this could lead to a lot of conflict and heartbreak.

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