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Dear Coleen
I need your advice because I think I’m being bullied and treated unfairly at work since I had sex with my manager.
It has been so hard to work alongside her since the night we slept together.
Now she is always chatting about me behind my back. Sometimes I catch her saying things, which can be pretty hurtful.
What’s your advice? I hate going into work now and don’t know how to make things better.
Coleen says
You’ve been intimate enough to have sex, now you need to be grown-up enough to confront it.
Ask her for a meeting and say, ‘We can’t change what happened, but I’d like to move on with no hard feelings. What you’re doing is unnecessary and I don’t think I deserve it’.
And ask her how she thinks you can move on.
Your boss is acting like a woman scorned or maybe she’s just embarrassed and doesn’t know how to handle it.
But, the fact is, unless one of you leaves your job, you have to find a way of working together and remaining professional, hopefully without having to involve the HR department.
That’s always the danger of getting involved with someone in the office or having a one-night stand with a colleague – if things turn sour you have to see that person every day.
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