To all the single "Independent" ladies!

Lately, I am meeting women in their better side of 30s, living a life full of regrets. They are single mothers after their starter marriage failed.

Some pursued their career, succeeded and emerged at the top only to discover that it is indeed very lonely at the top.

There ought to be a course that teaches women on how to go about their life in that decisive period of their lives: 25-30.

By then, with a degree, they stand at a strange roundabout in the life journey. To the North they have career goals. To the West is their marriage and love life and to the South is further education. And for some to the East, is a life of fun and partying.

I'm freshly graduated from grad school, and for all that tough talk that women give claiming that career and education is better than marriage and children, I can assure it is not.

I can attest that I did notice a lot of anxiety among the women, especially those about to clock 30 or above 30.

At grad school, given the intense life, some broke up with their men owing to the long distance, the school pressure, or simply bumping into a new lover in the school. It is overwhelming.

What I discovered is that women are actually vulnerable, inasmuch they don't want to admit.

At the bar, and during the esoteric school talks, they talk a good game about equality, about life goals (as if life is static, and they will panel-bit it into whatever shape they want). Some have a real dim view of men and marriage.

Yet, privately, many did confess to me about their anxiety. Women need men.

They need good husbands. Most want to settle down and raise a family. Surprisingly, in the traditional fashion.

Only that, women are the new men and will rather die before they admit that they need a man in their life; except when they are 36, and the years seem unstoppable.

Here is some wise counsel, if you are woman, reading this and you are aged 25-30. Make the right choices around this time. Life is irreversible.

 This is your biological prime, and the best time to get the husband of your dreams. Don't listen to the single, successful woman in her 40s, who pursued her dreams.

Money is a silly measure of success, granted you need it. No amount of dogs or pets will replace the warmth and comfort a family brings, I have said this before.

So don't waste time partying. Your friends will be married and move on and soon you will be the only one happening in a club and that is not funny.

 Soon you will be old, and paying young men for sex and the society will label you a cougar. So what? You may ask.

 I will tell you it is a destructive life, don't dare find out what it is all about. Thing is the older you are, the more likely you are to attract men who are less attractive and less serious.

Unless you are into widowers (nothing wrong in that), or men already entangled in messy child custodies that you will live with forever.

So between 25 to 30, even as you want to advance your career, even as you want that extra masters, start searching for a husband.

But there is a catch here. Stop dating or marrying men because they are rich or seemingly rich. Study a man's character. Bid your time.

Most women have been married in haste, and after one or two children, they discover that they married a savage, a divorce becomes inevitable.

Now, single motherhood may be glorified, but trust me on this: it is not easy especially if you were once married.

Don't marry a man out of infatuation, or lust, or because he has a well-furnished two-bedroom house in some silly neighborhood like South B. It is evolutionary to be motivated materially, but it has been a path to ruin for many women.

So, start foraging for a husband, but it is not an emergency. Prioritize, family first, career or education later.

 Don't argue with this. Or you will be the lonely woman in her late 30s, wondering where the rain