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Five reasons people use to explain why they cheat other than sex

 You may be doing everything right but your partner still cheats on you (Image: Shutterstock)

If you have been cheated on, you know how painful and devastating it can be.

The saddest part is it can lead to the end of a beautiful marriage or relationship with the cheater living to regret it. So why do they do it?

Stick around and you will find out.

You may be doing everything right by the book and your partner still cheats on you. Sometimes it has nothing to do with you.

The question why some people choose to be unfaithful can actually be easily answered. In this day and age where sex is easily available and flings have become the norm, research has shown that most marriages will experience some infidelity at one point.

So, whether it was intentional or whatever the case may have been, here are some of the reasons cheaters give for stepping out on their partner:

  • They felt neglected

At the beginning of most relationships, partner’s focus all their time and attention on their new catch until the honeymoon stage is over and reality sets in.

Once that attention and connection that was there starts to dwindle, the neglected partner may be vulnerable to attention elsewhere leading to infidelity.

If he or she feels they’re not getting their emotional or physical needs met like they were before, this can create room for temptations.

  • Falling out of love

When you start falling in love you will know because every little thing the other person does makes you excited and the butterflies in your stomach.

That doesn’t last and as the relationship becomes stable, those intense feelings begin to fade. That however does not mean the love is over.

The excitement though can make you crave those feelings and you may start to desire getting that from another person.

 When a relationship starts to get serious the honeymoon phase naturally fades (Image: Shutterstock)
  • Revenge

Sometimes the partner who was cheated on may want to payback by doing the same. A bad idea obviously, that never ends well and the relationship soon becomes toxic and it is better to break it off than continue.

Other reasons that may stem from revenge or anger include a partner who is absent, constant arguments, their love needs are not being met or simply out of frustrations.

Some partners see this as a form of punishment making things worse than they already were.

  • Unmet needs

Many people stay in unhappy relationships or marriages for the sake of the kids and in the hope things will get much better.

Sadly, frustrations continue to grow as their needs go on being unmet. When one partner is investing a lot of emotional energy and they’re not being appreciated or reciprocated or they have different sex drives for instance, this may motivate them to cheat.

  • Feeling unappreciated

One partner may be forced to look elsewhere once they feel they are not being loved, given attention or respected enough.

They may start feeling like they are being taken advantage of and being used. To deal with those feelings, they may look elsewhere for fulfilment and to fill that void they’re missing from their partner.

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