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How to be happy when your friends succeed

Relationships By Esther Muchene
It is okay to admit that you’re struggling with these emotions when you see your friends succeeding while you’re still miles behind (Shutterstock)

Very few people, if they even exist in the first place, can say that they’ve never experienced the green-eyed monster in one way or another. It happens when you compare your success to others and if it’s not addressed early, things can escalate to resentment. Trust me, that does not look pretty.

It’s sometimes hard to appreciate your strengths when you see your friends succeeding while you’re still miles behind them.

And it is okay to admit that you’re struggling with these emotions because that’s the first step towards dealing with them in a healthy way.

Here’s how you can work on that feeling and celebrate your friends wins.

  • Work on your inner self more

Have a one on one meeting with yourself and find the root causes of your insecurities. It could be that those feelings of jealousy stem from rejection in the past or that you’re deeply insecure about a certain area in your life.

It’s important to understand where those feelings are stemming from so that you can be happier with who you are even when you don’t have the same level of success as your friends.

This is also essential because when you’re happy within, you’ll actually feel fulfilled and not in an egotistical way when you finally attain that level of success you’ve wanted or when you surpass their achievements.

  • Talk to someone who won’t judge you

If you communicate exactly how you feel, you can get the motivation to genuinely be happy for your friends. Have an honest conversation with them, if they’re understanding or find someone like a counselor, who will hear you out without making you feel like a horrible person for having those tough emotions.

You need some guidance and encouragement from others so that you can get a new perspective altogether. This is a healthy long term solution for a strong sense of self confidence.

  • Offer unconditional support

When you’re genuinely supportive in your friendships despite feeling the way you do, you get a deeper understanding of what it’s like to be in their shoes.

You might assume that it’s all glitz and glamor only to realize the tough challenges they’ve had to go through.

This is how you can nurture compassion and kindness which eventually encourages true happiness for their wins.

  • Look at your friends as mentors

Having successful friends is actually a blessing. Think about it! They can give you some great tips on succeeding in your own journey and besides, their shine doesn’t dim yours in any way.

If they’ve managed to run a successful business in an area you would wish to join, you have free and exclusive tips on how to succeed as well.

This change in attitude will shift your whole view and encourage you to celebrate their accomplishments even more.

  • Chase your own dreams

Finding a sense of fulfilment is personal. You might be trying to force your way up as a manager so that you can compare yourself to others around your circle when your true passion is being a novelist.

Define what success means to you and be content with who you are. That way if you’re not earning as much as your friends, you can still be happy without comparing yourself or feeling like a loser.

  • Get rid of the defeatist attitude

It’s good to have a humble and content attitude but sometimes people use that as a shield for their failed attempts at success.

Remember that you don’t always have to settle for where you are. And when you see your friends achieving their goals, you’ll begin to understand that this could be your reality if you work hard.

Embrace the fact that you too are capable so that you don’t end up quitting even before you make any progress.

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