Confessions: My friend welcomed me to her home, I snatched her partner

Hopeful to get help and mend her ways with her former friend, Lilian opened up to KTN Home’s Nisamehe show and confessed to have had an affair with her friend’s partner and now she is hoping her friend would forgive her.

The affair started when she moved in with her friend after her mother sent her away over what she terms as her hard party life.

Working at a shop around Nairobi’s Kenyatta Hospital area, she would occasional leave work late in the night and since her friend’s man was taxi operator, she would reach out and have him pick her up during her late nights at the shop.

While it started as a matter of trust and convenience, Lilian admits she was envious of the small handouts the man would give her friend from time to time and she decided to take advantage of her situation to also gain favours from him. She says one thing led to another and when he made a pass at her, it was game on. She even admits she would occasionally leave work to meet with her friend’s man.

The affair, she says, went on and on as she couldn’t help but stick around for more of his between the sheets charms.

A changed person now, Lilian feels bad about betraying her friend and hopes they can get back together and be good buddies again but Patricia Kagendo, a relationship specialist featured in the show, has a word of caution for the former friends hoping to rekindle their friendship.

“While it is beautiful that Lilian’s friend can forgive her, they shouldn’t confuse forgiveness and reconciliation.

“Considering you guys had been friends before and Lilian broke the trust in the friendship, you can forgive her but don’t be too quick to reconcile with her. Let her in bit by bit and let her earn your trust. Don’t rush to make her a close friend again. Life is all about experiences and since you have had yours, you need to set and mark your boundaries clearly,” Kagendo advices.