Mum-to-be fuming as mother-in-law 'steals her moment' ahead of only child's birth
By MIRROR | 2 months ago
Planning for your baby's arrival is a big moment, one that most people only want to share with their significant other.
For one mum-to-be the part of planning she was most looking forward to was going shopping and picking out clothes for her child.
The unnamed parent claims she has a very particular style and has known for years she would only have one child, so she really wanted to savour all the special moments along the way.
In a post on Reddit, she explained how she and her husband had decided to buy gender-neutral items for their baby, despite knowing they were having a girl, reports cafemom.
She told all of their family about her wishes, but it seems her mother-in-law had other ideas.
The expectant mum also shared how she was going to buy secondhand items for the child as she's been attempting to reduce her carbon footprint.
She said: "I stay away from plastic and non-sustainable materials as much as possible.
"I'm also not the most feminine person, and the idea of gendered children's clothes always really bothered me. Ever since I was a teenager I wanted to avoid that when it came time to have my own baby."
However, her mother-in-law wasn't keen on this and decided to take matters into her own hand, buying bags and bags of pink, sparkly baby clothes for her unborn grandchild.
"[Mother-in-law] shows up with, I kid you not, 15 gift bags all labelled by month and each and every one is stuffed to the brim with baby girl clothes.
"Every single item just screams 'grandma' or 'I’m a girl'."
This disappointed the mum, as she hasn't been able to do much during her pregnancy due to the global pandemic and shopping was the one thing she'd been excited about.
"I was really looking forward to the experience of shopping for my first and only daughter.
"I was so excited to find items I liked, ones that were more gender-neutral and less in your face girly. Just to pick out some stuff and then dress her in things I chose, have it be special."
She added: "It's probably mostly hormones, but I just feel so bummed out.
"I feel like I'm having her grandchild rather than mine if that makes any sense.
"Of course, I love my baby no matter what her clothes look like, but I just had this idea in my head of how things would be and now it's not that and it just sucks."
Fellow Reddit users were very sympathetic and encouraged the mum to still do her own shopping.
One replied: "I would go through and sort out what you want and donate the rest. It's not your fault she spent that money when you expressed not to. Donate it all and move on like it never happened. You can tell her you donated it too. You expressly told her not to do that, and she did it anyway. I get being excited, but she crossed the line. No one is forcing you to keep them."
Another wrote: "I've got a MIL just like you do. I just politely say thank you and then we don't use whatever she bought. We wind up either passing them on to someone in our families or someone we hear is in need. If she's unwilling to listen and spend her money, that's on her."
A third added: "I'd do my best to sell all the pieces and buy what you actually wanted."
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