Rebuilding your professional reputation after a toxic exit

Many of us have been tempted to do the unthinkable after leaving a toxic job, and for those who did, the consequences of burning bridges have had far-reaching effects.

In an increasingly connected world of professional platforms and tight-knit industry circles, negative perceptions can have a surprisingly long shelf life. Think of it this way: the internet never forgets.

Because of this, it’s not uncommon for a past issue to resurface at the most inopportune moment, such as during a background check for a dream role or when seeking collaboration with a former colleague who is now in a position of influence.

So, what should you do if you realise you have burned a bridge? The first step is to acknowledge the situation without dwelling on blame. Focus on what you can actively manage moving forward.

Before you start applying for jobs, take an honest look at what happened and what your role in the situation was. What could you have done differently? Now is the time to gain clarity and demonstrate maturity, not to engage in self-recrimination. Acknowledging your part, even if it was minor, is a crucial step.

Use your communication skills to write a concise email or LinkedIn message expressing regret for any negative feelings or misunderstandings that arose. Avoid lengthy explanations or airing grievances, and focus on expressing hope for mutual professional respect in the future.

Once you have done that, offer value, not demands. If you’re trying to reconnect with a former colleague, consider how you might offer them genuine value without immediately asking for a favour.

For example, you could share an insightful article or research paper relevant to their position, congratulate them on a recent achievement, or simply engage with their professional content on LinkedIn. As you do all these things, bear in mind that re-establishing goodwill will take time, so be patient.

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If this fails, move on to Plan B and accept that those bridges have been burned. The only way forward is to grow beyond the point at which they were burned. Invest in developing your skills, gain new certifications, and pursue roles that showcase your improved capabilities.

Demonstrating tangible growth and a commitment to your expertise can naturally change perceptions over time. These act as powerful indicators of your evolution.