Five clues your relationship is over

Unless you’ve got a super power and can see into the future, it’s impossible to know when your relationship is coming to an end. Or is it? 

Over the years, I’ve prided myself in knowing when a relationship wasn’t headed for happily ever after and I’m not ashamed to say that I bailed. Maybe this is a sign of a deep-rooted issue on my part but that’s a story for another day.

I like to think that I’d know when it was time to call it quits. You always know. You and your partner suddenly have less time for each other and even making time like you did in the past becomes a hustle. And when you speak, it’s cold, distant, non-commital. Then there’s the lack of interest in each other’s lives. Or you argue about the smallest things. For me this always indicates that something isn’t right.

However, what happens when you’re in relationship bliss so much so that your partner saying that they want “a break” catches you completely off-guard? Are there subtle, or not so subtle, signs that your relationship is coming to an end? Read on.

1. You’re no longer a priority

You’ve probably heard the excuses, I know I have, ‘I’m super busy right now’, ‘We’ll set a date when we can meet’ or ‘I’ve this or those plans already’. This is a clear sign that you’re no longer at the top of the list of priorities. 

When your partner suddenly doesn’t have time to do those things you used to do together or their work schedule is so tight that they can hardly make one hour for you, it might be a sign that they’re easing their way out of the relationship.

Pick up on the clues and remove yourself from that relationship. Avoid fooling yourself thinking that things will change. When a person loves you, they make you a priority. They will make time for you even when they’ve had the hardest day in the world. And if they’re unable to meet you physically, they’ll be sure to call and have a catch up before the end of the day. Move on, I know how difficult it can be, and look for someone who values you and lets nothing stand in their way.

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2. They’re emotionally distant

Relationships take work. In the first few months, usually the honeymoon period, communicating comes easily. Plans to meet up after work or over the weekend actually materialize. You simply can’t get enough of each other.

But as time goes on and the initial fire of the relationship burns out, you need to make more of an effort. However, if you notice that you’re the only one who seems to be making an effort, it might be a sign that your relationship is coming to an end. 

A partner who is emotionally distant talks to you as if they’re being forced to. Your conversations are polite, like those you’d have with an acquaintance at a party. Or they lack the excitement they had when it came to spending time together. The happenings in their life become a mystery when earlier they shared everything with you.

All these are signs of a distance coming between the two of you and it might be time to break it off.

3. You’re constantly in fear that they’ll break up with you

If you feel this way about your partner, girl, walk away. When you’re in a healthy relationship, you should be comfortable around each other. You should be secure in the relationship so much so that you know your partner would never knowingly do anything to hurt you. You also trust them enough to know that they’ll talk to you should the need arise.

Being constantly afraid that your words or actions could lead to a break up is a sign of an unhealthy relationship. You shouldn’t have to tip-toe around your partner. You should be able to be yourself without fear of judgement and rejection.

4. Anything sets them off

Frequent arguments are a sign that your relationship is headed for the rocks. These arguments are often brought on by the smallest things and can go on and on.

When a couple is committed to taking their relationship forward, they often overlook those small annoyances. If it’s something that needs to be addressed, they do so calmly. However, when someone wants out, they’ll let these small annoyances get the better of them and become argumentative, lack understanding and refuse to find solutions to the problem.

If this is the case, walk away.

5. Ghosting

Breakups are hard. Being the one to initiate the break up can also be hard. Some people opt for the easy way out and choose to ghost their partner, hoping that they’ll take the hint that the relationship is over.

If your calls and messages go unanswered, stop calling and texting. Ghosting is a sign of cowardice, an attempt to avoid difficult conversations or conflict. If your partner ghosts you, cut ties with them.