Overlooked relationship killers and how to fix them

Getting in a relationship may be easy, maintaining one is the uphill task that breaks one too many.

Even as you try to circumnavigate these matters of the heart, you should know that there are some unwritten rules on how to improve on your relationship, alongside what you should avoid. Here are some:

Not spending time alone

Here's the secret revealed. Time together is great but time alone is the most important.

You see, once you get into a relationship, you want to know each other more hence pour out a lot of your time on each other.

However, not taking a step back and spending time alone to retrospect and reevaluate yourself can harm your relationship.

You need to understand that time alone is not being selfish. Instead, when you spend too much time together without taking some time off, you may lose yourself.

Once in a while, take time alone and do something you individually love without your partner. This will rejuvenate you fully.

Sweeping small misunderstandings under the carpet

A small crack on the wall that's not sealed will lead to the whole house falling down. Having painted this image in your mind, it illustrates how small disagreements that aren't resolved end up bringing a whole relationship down.

The pile up of these unresolved issues will cause you to have such heavy baggage. As a result, you'll end up blowing up on each other when it's least expected.

Adopting to a conflict resolution method where you agree on not sleeping before resolving your issues will go a long way.

As a tip, some of the worst times to resolve conflicts is when you are almost sleeping since both of you are tired.

On a date night, chilled afternoon or morning are best times for this.

Failing to express love

Within the first year of the relationship, you realize that you tell each other how much you love them very often.

Days pass and you get used to each other's company such that you begin limiting your exchange and expression of love.

The challenge with this is that over time, both of your will start feeling unappreciated and may move to start looking for comfort elsewhere.

To avoid this drifting apart experience, ensure you express your love to each other on a daily basis.

Make no room for someone else to come and appreciate your partner in ways that you haven't already. As a result, you'll end up with a thriving relationship.

Concentration to the faults

What type of person are you, the one who sees the glass being half full or half empty?

Your outlook towards your relationship especially when either of you is at fault makes a huge difference on how your relationship becomes.

In the long run, you'll realize that if you constantly see each other's faults and keep concentrating on that, you end up hurting your partner.

You should be able to see each other from a positive light, encouraging each other all through. This way, your relationship can stand the test of time.

Be keen on what you look at or overlook in your relationship. At the end of the day, you're the only one who can save or demolish your relationship.