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There is no task as difficult as dealing with a first time mother in this generation, especially those whose bank accounts are deep and wide like God’s love. Just the other day, I came across a first time mother who had employed two nannies for her only daughter. I mean two nannies! One covers the morning shift while the other covers the afternoon. Meanwhile, she is also a stay at home mother. I am not even going to complain about that, today I am here to tell you to let first time mothers be. When all the craze is gone, they will get back to normal. Just so you know, I was once in their position, the only problem was that my bank account was ‘anorexic’, so I ended up limiting myself from doing lots of these things.
You will walk into the house of a first time mother and for a moment think you have walked into a pharmacy. Let me tell you, these people are extremely loyal to their doctors and any other ‘advisor’ in their lives. You will not even need rocket science to know when you meet a first time mother, just what she says, how she says it and the things around her will sell her out. My sister Rose is a first time mother and just last week, she woke me up in the wee hours of the night telling me to organise for a cab to rush her and the baby to hospital. I shot from my bed almost hitting my head against the wall as I fumbled with my phone trying to reach a cab. Since I do not live far from her, I rushed out of the house running towards her house while on phone giving directions to the cab driver. When I got to her house, I found her slowly sipping coffee while browsing on her phone with her feet dipped in warm water.
I swung the door open and she looked up at me from the top of her glasses asking me why I was banging the door claiming I was going to wake up her baby. Still panting, I asked her what the problem was and she calmly told me her baby had a pimple! I almost collapsed in shock! So she had the guts to wake me up during ungodly hours asking me to find her a cab to rush her baby to the hospital because she had a pimple! A pimple? So what will she do the day baby will develop diaper rash? Call an ambulance? You should have seen me grab the coffee from her and give her a stern warning as she sat there looking at me as if I were some unidentified flying object in her living room.
Then there are those first time mothers like me too eager to celebrate their children’s birthdays that they end up fixing parties even where there aren’t any. Seriously, I remember myself throwing a huge quarter birthday for my daughter the day she turned three months complete with a cake and a master of ceremony! I used to change baby’s diaper every hour claiming it was full until all the stock I had received during my baby shower was depleted. Only then did I realise how expensive these commodities are! These days, she stays with the diaper till it starts sagging, that’s when I know it’s time for a change. Did I tell you how I used to carry her car seat even into public transport vehicles and making her sit there?
Until I became a mother, I always thought first time mothers were out of their minds, now I know better! Just give them time, just a little bit of time and watch how they adjust when baby number two comes. They even forget the clinic visits while baby number one’s clinic visits had been printed and pasted all over the house!
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