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By Patrick Gerenge
Many men, especially as they age, have sexual problems. These can include:
• Erectile dysfunction
• Reduced or lost interest in sex
• Problems with ejaculation
• Failure of the testicles to make the normal amount of male sex hormones
How to go about it with your partner
Most men would rather ‘die’ than speak about a sexual problem that might be afflicting them. Most only come out of this fear-cocoon when things are almost or already out of hand, and/or require medical attention. The male ego is partly to blame, while to a partner it might be viewed as a weakness and a loss of virility.
Coupled with stress, the situation might drive men into complete depression. It is known that some situations have led to broken marriages, and/or relationships with a sexual inclination. What men need to realise is that talking to a partner about it could be a life saver. In part, it could mean that you care enough for your relationship and have confidence in confiding with her. No woman has ever had negative feelings, or reactions to a caring partner who has confidence in her, to share pertinent relationship issues.
On the contrary, making her understand the truth and what you are doing about it could lift your relationship to the next level.
Not sharing and suffering in silence is not the answer when tackling a sexual problem in a relationship. It could also be an indicator of dishonesty. The discovery thereof by your sexual partner of your hidden issues might be the start of the end of your relationship. Take the initiative and frankly enter into a discussion about it.
Having done this, it will be prudent that you seek medical or professional advice, which may mean that you could even visit the doctor with your spouse so that you can receive counselling together, as you get treated. This will be a sure way of preserving your relationship for the long haul.
Stress, illness, medications, or emotional problems may also be factors. Talking frankly with your partner and your doctor about sexual problems is the first step towards restoring sexual health.
The writer is a lifestyle management and wellness consultant.
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