Mama's boys, men who are a little too attached to their mothers, have long been the subject of jokes and pop culture references. But what happens when that attachment extends beyond a healthy relationship with mum and interferes with romantic relationships?
If he constantly talks about his wonderful mother and the influence she has over his decisions he is the one. If he involves his mother in every decision whether big or small it could be a sign that he is overly dependent on her opinion and approval. If your partner always turns to his mother for emotional support rather than you it could be a sign that he has not fully separated from his mother's influence.
He prioritises his mother over you like cancelling plans with you to be with her or always taking her side in disagreements, it could be a sign that he is too attached to his mother. And here comes the kicker, he lives with his mother.
But first, it is important to note that not all men who have close relationships with their mothers are mama's boys. Having a strong bond with one's mother can be a sign of emotional intelligence and a healthy upbringing.
However, when that bond becomes all-consuming and begins to overshadow romantic relationships, that becomes a cause for concern.
According to a survey conducted by the dating app Zoosk, 65 per cent of women believe that being a mama's boy is a deal breaker in a relationship. Additionally, 75 per cent of women say they would never date a man who puts his mother before his partner.
A study conducted by the University of Michigan found that mama's boys are more likely to live at home with their parents, have their mother do their laundry and expect their partner to take care of them in the same way.
These behaviours can make women feel like they are in a parental role rather than an equal partner role leading to resentment and a lack of intimacy.
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The University of Michigan study found that men who are closer to their mothers are less likely to have satisfying sexual relationships with their partners.
But why do some men become so attached to their mothers? It could be a combination of factors, including a lack of emotional support from their fathers, overprotective parenting from their mothers or even cultural expectations that place a high value on filial piety.
That said, what can be done to break the mama's boy cycle and have a healthy, fulfilling relationship?
Communication is key. Both partners should be open and honest about their expectations and boundaries.
It is also important for the man to set boundaries with his mother and establish independence. Without that, there will be constant friction between the most important women in his life.
Ultimately, a healthy relationship requires a balance of love and respect between partners. While a strong bond with one's mother can be a wonderful thing, it is important to remember that romantic relationships require a different kind of intimacy and emotional connection.