Is it unfair that my husband has a password on his phone?

For a few months now, my husband has been having a password on his phone. I cannot read his text messages or see his call log and he has refused to share his password. I think he is hiding some things from me. If he is not hiding something from me then why is he being so secretive about his phone?

He even takes it with him to the bathroom and does not let it out of his sight. I smell a rat and sometimes I feel like banging his phone on the wall. I don’t understand what is going on. {Mildred}

Mildred, this is your husband and therefore you have all the rights to question him. You are not insecure about your marriage and you have to have a serious discussion about this with him. Get some sweet words to tell him how you feel, humble yourself and he will do exactly what you want. The fact that he is too secretive about his phone shows that he is hiding something from you. {Fred Jausenge}

Your take:

Trust is the foundation of any successful relationship. Searching through your husband’s phone shows that you do not believe in the person you are with...it is one of the worst things you can do. It can open up so many issues that you may not be prepared to deal with mentally or emotionally. {Andrew Didy Chaplin}

What do you hope to achieve by snooping into his phone? Sit down with him and have a candid conversation about fidelity. Trust issues in marriage can be quite a problem and this is not the way to solve them. {Aseri Dick}

Sometimes, the only mistake we make in life is “being too concerned”. Your husband may or may not be having an affair. I urge to you to keep your cool. In marriage, some things die natural deaths. Do not lose your head even if the whole world does, let him operate as he pleases or have a discussion with him about how you feel. {Onana Victor}

If you get mad over it, it may kill you but all the signs are that there is something your husband is hiding from you. It may not necessarily be that he has affairs outside marriage. Talk to him and tell him why his actions are scaring you. Every person has skeletons, including you, and the best way is to take it cool and discuss them. Noise and threats only worsen them. {Tasma Charles}

Why do you want to check his phone? What would you be looking for? I think you are suspecting him of infidelity because you may also be involved in it. Talk to him and hear him out. He may be having a good reason as to why he is doing this. Dialogue is the best approach to this. {Ouma Ragumo}

Couples should feel free to use and even handle each other’s phone. You did not however tell us if you do allow him to scroll through your phone or not. The truth is that he is either cheating on you or he is engaged in dirty deals that he does not want you to get wind of. My advice is that you request him to accompany you on a picnic then share with him your concerns. Remember communication is one of the powerful tools in resolving issues. {Andera Ngota – Lwanya}