We all see kids as helpless but they are not. It’s important to know what to do and what not to do for your kids. Doing everything for them will only make them dependent and lazy.
We all love our children so much and wish to make their lives as comfortable as possible but they also need to learn how to do things on their own and also how to be independent.
Remember they won’t stay children forever. How you raise your kids determines the kind of people they grow up to be and the values they will have as adults.
Of course, you shouldn’t stop doing the needful for them. When it comes to certain things like cooking and filing of official documents you should step in. But that doesn’t mean we can’t teach them how to do these things.
Here are some things you should never do for your kids.
Talk on their behalf
It’s important to let your children express themselves without intervening. I know we all face the temptation to speak on behalf of your kid at school, in front of family or among strangers or at the doctors. Allow your child to answer the questions they are asked. This will teach them how to express themselves even in your absence.
Help them too much
Yes, you might think that I sound insane by telling you not to help them too much but it’s important. Let your child learn how to do things without your input. If they are learning how to walk let them do it by themselves a couple of times at their pace. If they’re old enough allow them to feed themselves. I know it will be messy but that’s how they learn.
Choose their interests for them
We all want our kids to have the same interests that we have but that might not always be the case. You can introduce them to your interests but don’t force them to take them up. Instead encourage what they are interested in. That is not your choice, it's theirs.
Count their money
I know you are wondering what on earth is going through my mind when I’m telling you this but hear me out. Allow your child to count the money they have collected in their piggy bank on their own. This is such a great way for them to learn how to count and handle their money.
Choose their presents
When visiting relatives and they ask your little one what they want, don’t use this opportunity to get out of buying them what they need. Let your child choose what they want. Remember they asked your child what they want, they did not ask you what they should buy for your kid.
Make personal decisions for them
Boundaries are very important. We all want to know every little detail in our child’s lives but allow them to choose what to tell you and what not to tell you. Let them have their secrets. Don’t make personal decisions for them. If they don’t want to play with a certain child and they don’t want to tell you why just leave them be!