War Room. If as a married woman you haven’t watched, read or heard about this movie, then your person has not cheated on you enough.
Or has never cheated just. This has always been a song for women as an encouragement to forgive their philandering husbands, especially if and when it has hit the roof.
Watch War Room, go on your knees and pray for your husband. Go on the mountains and fast for 40 days and 40 nights and dedicate the man of your house to the Lord in prayer.
Well, women easily forgive. Okay - they don’t easily do, it is not as easy to forgive a cheating partner, but society and religion expect them to just pray and forgive. They cry their nights away and soak the pillows in tears begging God to change their persons.
I don’t know, but every woman at this age and time has made peace with the fact that his man will chew something new out there, at least once in his lifetime. Hence they don’t really get the shock when they find out. It’s just a confirmation of the fears.
But why do men find it so difficult to forgive infidelity? The thought of another man right there, naked before his woman, makes them choke! The idea that the other man might be much better than him in matters of sex, that she could be giving it better than she does back home, these ideas just can’t sink.
The images can torture him all his life especially when he sees his woman around, say, she’s the legal wife complete with kids.
This conversation was triggered by some tweet about a man who had filed for divorce because he had caught his wife's pants down, literally. Just once and the man went berserk! The babe had to remind him of the countless times she had found him cheating but would still forgive. In two such cases, kids were born and she had even taken them in. But he would hear none of the nonsense! Like, how dare she have sex with another man, a man who is not him?
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Men usually regard infidelity more seriously. This is according to one of my male friends. Infidelity affects a man’s masculinity and its the biggest offence against his manhood and identity and leaves questions about his sexual ability.
The act completely crushes his ego and lowers his self-esteem as a man, he might even not be able to face his boys out there. How do you tell your boys that another man shagged your woman?
When a woman cheats, apparently, it goes deeper than the physical sexual touch and when a man gets wind of this or has evidence, he gets mixed reactions. If kids are in the picture, there’s this possibility that those kids might not even be his. Women are weird humans, don’t joke! So the whole idea of a woman cheating doesn’t sit quite well with any sane man.
See, it’s believed that women cheat for emotional reasons. Well, they are emotional beings. They cheat for attention and some, for revenge. Y’all know that when a woman decides to revenge, she engages all her gears and senses. Unlike men who might just cheat for sex and nothing more, a woman would even fall in love while at it. A man’s bruised ego can’t handle betrayal and forgiveness is the last he can think of.
Also, men are never prepared psychologically that their women might at some point cheat, or try cheating. It’s the confidence that beats me! Because why would you think that a woman you met in adulthood, would do you and you alone? That she can never look at another man and find him attractive and develop feelings for him?
Come on, Jeremiah, just the way you admire other women out there, who are definitely other men’s women, yours is no exception - she is also admired!
To a man, his woman is his and no other man should touch her, much as he is busy being touchy out there. Because at least every woman is someone’s and especially if and when you have yours at home, the one you self-picked and made yours. Why would you be busy laying pipe where you aren’t contracted to?
No excuse is enough reason for a man for his woman to sleep with another man. There are those who forgive, have forgiven and live happily ever after with their women. Then there are those who regard cheating as the ultimate relationship breaker.
The day our brothers, husbands and boyfriends will make peace with the fact that their women might at some point find someone more attractive than them, forgiving infidelity will never be such a big deal. It won’t be regarded as a weakness. They will easily talk about it and forgive then wait for another cheating episode and forgive again.