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Confessions: 'My friend insists we choose another baby name because it's the same as her ex'

 My friends insists I change my baby's name from an ex she dated 10 years back (Image: Shutterstock)

A woman has revealed how her friend stopped talking to her after she told her the name she chose for her baby.

In an anonymous post on Reddit, the woman, who already has a two-year-old son, announced that she is expecting a baby boy.

She said she and her husband wanted to name their newborn Alan for two reasons.

The first being "that was the name of my husband's teacher who inspired him to also become a teacher," and the second being that Alan is the name of the main character in her favourite book.

But the problem is, her best friend's ex is also named Alan and she doesn't want her godson to be called that - the woman had already told her pal she'll be her son's god mum.

She said: "I would understand this if they just broke up but they dated 10 years ago. She broke up with him. He didn't cheat. She didn't cheat. She just stopped loving him."

Her friend "insisted" that they choose another name, but the couple loves this one.

The name also went down well with their two-year-old, her parents and her in-laws.

"She stopped talking to me on Wednesday," the woman continued.

"Some of our friends heard what happened and told me she said I was the  a** for picking that name 'to hurt her'.

"Our friends didn't say anything about their opinion since they don't want to get caught up in it."

She asked users whether she was being unreasonable for wanting to still name her baby Alan.

One person said: "Change the godmother narcissists are not good models for kids," to which the original poster replied revealing that she did in fact pick another one of her friends to take on the responsibility.

She wrote: "I've known this person for almost 25 years and she adores the name Alan (she loves the book I got the name from too). I'm so happy to have her as my friend and can't wait for her to meet my baby once it's born."

Another person commented: "No one but you and your husband can [choose] what your baby is called. If they disagree they just have to deal with it."

"She has some unresolved issues with that relationship, and it's not your fault, or your responsibility to deal with," said a third, adding, "While I truly understand not wanting to constantly hear the name of an ex, that is a personal problem which she needs to take care of. It isn't your responsibility to manage her emotions or her response to them."

Whilst someone else put: "10 years is more than enough time to get over a breakup. If she’s still really struggling with it she needs therapy, that’s not on you or your unborn baby."

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