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Mum's anger as husband plays golf rather than seeing their premature baby in hospital

The mother-of-three was upset at her husbands behaviour (Photo: Shutterstock)

An "exhausted" mum-of-three was furious after her husband opted to play golf with the boys instead of visiting his newborn son in the hospital.

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She claimed he hadn't seen their little boy for days, and didn't understand why he would rather spend time with his golf friends than bond with him.

Her upset has caused a huge debate online, with people offering differing opinions on the sensitive situation.

She didn't exactly have a textbook-perfect pregnancy after her amniotic sac ruptured 30 weeks in, leaving her confined to a hospital bed for a month.

And when her father-in-law passed away just two days before she went into labour, things got incredibly tough.

At 34 weeks she delivered her baby, and was rushed to the Newborn Intensive Care Unit.

When she was discharged, she stayed at home to care for her other two children, whilst her husband went to work - leaving very minimal time for her to visit her newborn at the hospital.

In a bid to bond with her son in any way she could, she said: "I am pumping breast milk every three hours because I feel like this is the only way that I am able to help my baby at this point".

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Trying to balance a new-born in the hospital and two children at home, whilst trying to grieve for a loved one, definitely put strain on the relationship.

She said he opted to play golf rather than visit their newborn in hospital (Photo: Shutterstock)

But when her husband decided his weekly golf meet-up was more important than bonding with his son, things went from bad to worse.

He had just attended his father's funeral, but when he decided to attend his weekly golf meet-up instead of bonding with his son, things went from bad to worse.

She had expected him to go straight to the hospital after the funeral, and when he hadn't she confronted him.

He said he should be able to socialize for three hours to get away from the stress of everything, without feeling bad.

He also called her "ridiculous" for not allowing herself time to do the same.

To which she said: "I feel like it is absolutely important to go out and do things for yourself that you enjoy but not when you just had a baby three days ago".

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She took to Reddit to ask users whether she had a right to be upset with him, and whilst some users suggested a compromise, others agreed with her husband.

Their baby was born at 34 weeks and rushed to the newborn Intensive Care Unit (Photo: Shutterstock)

One said: "Can he go every other week? Like a midway compromise.

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"If he usually goes once a week... I feel like right now you guys are in a situation where 'the usual' just isn’t gonna work out.

"There’s gotta be a middle ground".

Another agreed: "Maybe you can get a babysitter so you can go to the hospital and he can get time to clear his head".

A third person said: "Everyone needs some time to unwind from stress especially if it's been so hard on them.

"You should really see if he can look after things a bit so you can go out and do something to unwind as well.

"Sounds like you need it."

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