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Why you should keep your New Year resolutions to yourself

Sharing your resolutions with other people is probably not the best idea (Image: Shutterstock)

Everyone wants to better themselves in one way or another. At the beginning of every year, most people create New Year resolutions that they plan to achieve that year. It’s nice to kick off the year with fresh ideas for your life, and you may choose to share your resolutions with other people.

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Reading other people’s resolutions can give you the motivation to achieve your own resolutions. However, sharing your resolutions with other people is probably not the best idea. Below are four reasons why you should consider being quiet about your New Year resolutions.

  1. They may not happen

Several people around the world live by the law of ‘The Secret’, whereby you put your desires out into the universe so that the universe brings them into your possession. However, telling other people what you wish to achieve or attain doesn’t guarantee your possession of those things.

Besides an accountability partner(s), avoid telling people your goals and dreams ahead of them materialising because they may not happen, and you will probably end up feeling embarrassed and at the butt of your enemies’ jokes. Try and wait until you achieve your goals, then you will have the courage to boldly share your achievements.

  1. Time pressure

Vocalising your New Year resolutions ahead of their attainment puts a time limit on when you have to achieve them. If you plan on hitting certain goals within the year, you will be under pressure to honour what you have promised other people. 

If you don’t achieve these set goals, you may feel demoralised to carry on over a longer periods of time. Give yourself peace of mind and pace yourself with your resolutions. Be it weight loss, marriage, children or buying a home, don’t swear by a certain date to achieve them. Life is full of surprises!

Be especially careful with who you share your resolutions with (Image: Shutterstock)
  1. Sabotage

If you really have to, be especially careful with who you share your resolutions with. You don’t know who your true enemies are, some friends could just be wolves dressed in sheep’s clothing. For example, you may share your game plan for getting a promotion with your colleague at work, and out of possible jealousy, they may sabotage your plan or even steal your ideas and get themselves promoted ahead of you.

Create your game plan for the year privately and work on them as quietly as possible. When you do achieve them, you can then share your success story and, that way, you can inspire other people who would want to achieve what you have achieved.

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Telling other people what you wish to achieve or attain doesn’t guarantee your possession of those things (Image: Shutterstock)
  1. Comparison

Don’t compare your New Year resolutions to other people’s resolutions. When you remain quiet about your plans, you don’t need to impress other people by making your small goals sound big.

If you want to stop biting your fingernails, you might be reluctant to share this embarrassing habit with the world. Keeping it to yourself will allow you to quietly reduce your nail-biting, and over time, you will completely quit biting your nails!


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