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So, things haven’t been all that vava voom in the bedroom lately. Mr Sir still does what he always does but it’s become routine. You know what to expect and being intimate with him just seems, dare I say it, boring! No, your love story isn’t over, it just needs to be set on a different course, here’s how to bring the spice back.
1. Change location
If you restrict love making to only the bedroom, it is time to explore all the other rooms in the house. Try the couch, kitchen counter, corridor, by the main door, on the balcony, the dining table, the shower, the sink. The possibilities are endless, christen every available surface in your house. The unpredictability of not knowing where you’re doing it next will bring some excitement and thus sending your sex lives through the roof, literally.
2. Take the lead
Although men prefer being the dominant one, they like being told what to do sometimes. Take the lead, undress him first, cater to his needs first. Tell him what you want and how you want it. This trading of places has proven successful in bringing back the heat among couples.
Tell Mr Sir to sit down and hush up, you’re in control now.
3. Sexy texts / flirting
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You should never stop flirting with your significant other even if the two of you are together. When it comes to intimacy, the stimulation of the mind is a great component. So, send Mr Sir a risqué text. So risqué that if your mother sees it, she’ll pass out. Tell Mr Sir how you can’t wait for him to get home and show him what he’s been missing. Get descriptive as possible, by the time he gets home... Game on!
4. Lingerie is a plus
Get you some sexy lingerie, some he has never seen before, some lace or satin contraption. A sultry red and black always does the trick, white as well. White is considered a sign of purity, but what is running through his mind as he looks at you in it is nothing close to pure. Holy water anyone?
Let him stare at you, devour you with his eyes...
5. Kamasutra it
Get yourself a Kamasutra book and explore new positions that you didn’t know existed. You and Mr Sir can take this time to discover your levels of experimentation. If a position looks interesting, try it out and have fun with it. Go on like that ,checking off which every you’ve tried. This ensures you aren’t stuck with missionary forever.
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6. Toys are fun
Adult toys, although advertised for self-pleasure, can be used with a partner. Adding a toy in the bedroom can really spice things up. Ask Mr Sir if he is willing to bring in a little vibrating friend to the game and just to make him more confident, ask him to use the toy on you. Give him all the power to control the activity. In most cases, he will be more than glad to ‘play’ with you. Once he is more comfortable you can delve into more intense toys.
Just a few pointers to help you live your best sex life.
Try one out, text Mr Sir something interesting and watch him have his whole day distorted. That strategy meeting will be white noise, all he is thinking about is how he’s gonna test if the bed is really sturdy.