Eight ways to deal with rebellious teens

Raising children has its challenges. Even more, when they reach their teenager years. There is a ton of defiance that comes with this stage in both boys and girls. This is said to be one of the many nightmares parents experience. It is at this stage that the children either learn to be better or defy their parents counsel altogether.

Here are eight things we thought would help you deal with this stage despite what we know from our African parents.

Be the bigger person: There might be silent treatment, eye rolling, and general disrespect or even talk balks. Do not be dragged to their level and start a fight. Being the adult in this situation, and showing respect, there is likelihood that they could be compelled to show respect in return. Include them in solution making: When they do something that you do not approve of, it is best you make it known to them why you do not like what they are doing. Have them come up with solutions to the problem that you have addressed. This teaches them problem solving. Award good behavior: Every once in a while it is important to reward the behavior you approve of with something they have been raving about. You can even tie privileges to good behavior. Do not nag: Avoid repeating yourself when addressing the issues. Just like adults, nobody likes nagging. When you become annoying, another problem is created making it harder for the first problem to be solved. Punishing them is another way to remind them if they didn’t get it the first time Set the rules and see that they follow through on them. Be particular and have them understand what it is that you have said so that you are on the same page. This helps to eliminate misunderstanding. Be consistent: in reprimanding the things you do not approve of. If you disapprove of something then the next day you just let it slide, they could be testing your boundaries. Being consistent helps in bringing about the change. Get support: If all else fails and you do not seem to find a way that works with the teenager, then seek professional help from a counsellor. A third, neutral, party can help steer the conversation in the right direction and perhaps lead to the start of the solution. Focus on one behavior at a time: Trying to deal with more than one thing at a time can be overwhelming for you and your child. Habits can be changed in 21 days if only you focus one habit at a time. Trying to deal with many things at the same time