Do not be cheated, God wants us to enjoy sex

That the Bible and the Church are against people having sex is a lie from the pit of hell itself.

God wants human beings to enjoy sex to the fullest. He is the author of our bodies, the one who made us male and female and told Adam and Eve to be “fruitful and multiply.”

Sex is a gift given to several creatures, but man enjoys it the most because we are created with intelligence and a conscience. This makes us choose many things, including who to enjoy sex with. The psalmist says children are a gift from God and blessed is the man who has many in his quiver.

The fall of man in Genesis 3 was not a sexual fall. No human being can be fruitful and multiply without sex. Remember God brought Eve to Adam in Genesis, and Adam was nicely surprised and excited. Take it from me, God wants you and I to enjoy His gifts in this world, and one of the gifts is sex.

So what is it God is against when it comes to sex? There are three main things God is against:

First, God is against you not enjoying sex. Just like there are rules for every game, He gives us those rules, not to stop us, but to help us maximise the pleasure of it. To enjoy sex to the fullest, you need to follow His rules of the game.

Look, God intended sex to be enjoyed between two adults. Why then do we molest children for it? God made a penis to penetrate the vagina and made the vagina specifically for that purpose. He made the anus for expulsion of faeces.

So what is this about masturbation and homosexual behaviour? God intended sex to be enjoyed by consent. So what is this about rape? God intended sex for a married couple, man and woman. So what is this ‘sponsor’ and mpango wa kando madness?

Marriage between two is a very secure environment for sexual pleasure. Where there is faithfulness and commitment in a marriage, just as God intended it, there is the sweetest sex! You do not imagine contracting a venereal disease.

You do not fear that someone else has been sleeping with your spouse. Use of protection comes where there is doubt. And yes, indeed where there is doubt, you need to and must use protection. But that is not what God intended it to be when He created sexual creatures such as you and I. That is why the Church encourages us to take vows.

Second, God is against the pain and suffering that comes as a result of breaking the rules of the game. God is not willing that anyone should perish. He is not a sadist. He wants us to have life and have it more abundantly (John 10:10). So when we suffer as a result of breaking the rules of sex, it must grieve Him tremendously.

For instance, God does not want any woman to undergo the kind of heartbreaks we see in this world when a man lies to a woman that he loves her, has sex with her and then dumps her and goes to have sex with another, and another and another. God does not enjoy seeing the tears of those who cry because of one night of losing virginity and also the contraction of an STD.

God does not enjoy the pain of a woman who is left with children because a man has taken off, or a man who has to raise children by himself because the woman of his life took off. God does not enjoy to see you spend hard-earned money to procure an abortion or treat STDs.

He would love to see you use that money to pay school fees, buy food or sponsor an orphan. You may not hear the ‘silent scream’ of every aborted boy or girl as they are prematurely condemned to bins, dumps and other places where they are thrown. God, certainly, having known us before we were even formed in our mothers’ wombs, hates to watch a doctor tear the tiny, defenseless body of that child who depends on the mother for dear life.

Now hear this: The Bible says in Malachi that God hates divorce. Mark you, this is not to say that God will not care or help victims of divorce or separation.

I have testimonies of many who God has taken care of. He hates to see what happens as a result of divorce. You can imagine the pain the children undergo — having to live with separated parents. God does not enjoy seeing His children suffer as a result of the abuse of sex.

Thirdly, God is against those who lie or exploit others in the name of sex. There are people who exploit others because they are poor or needy. That is why some lecturers will answer for exploiting students in the sex-for-grades extortion.

This and many more angers God — and is the reason He categorically says the immoral will not inherit the Kingdom of God. I must clarify here first that there is no sexual sin that cannot be forgiven. Some people have lied in preaching that the ‘unforgivable sin’ is sex. No. It is blasphemy against the Holy Spirit.

Fortunately, if you have fallen, or if someone exploited you sexually, or if you are struggling with sexual desires, the Bible has answers for you. 1 Corinthians 7 encourages young people to marry instead of burning with sexual desire.

For the married. Galatians 5:17-26 helps us to know how to stay victorious over the flesh: “For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other... The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the Kingdom of God.”

Finally, don’t run away from God because of sex, thinking that He does not want you to enjoy it. Read His Word and see how you can enjoy it to the maximum.

Kigame is an accomplished and award-winning gospel musician with a following across Africa. The visually impaired Christian leader is a motivational speaker, activist and entrepreneur.