Michelle Sebi: Being a single mom wasn’t what I expected it to be

Having become pregnant at a young age of 20, Michelle Sebi has had to learn about all there is to know about motherhood through her daughter. From having to raise her baby alone without having the person who had promised that would be her pillar, she has had to mature faster than her age mates. A quote she lives by is that no situation is permanent and she is a proof of that. She is a mother to a beautiful girl, Mimah who just turned 18 months. She talks to us about how she is able to be a blogger, student, stylist and single mother.

How has your motherhood journey been?

It has been tough but amazing, a little ups and downs along the way but nothing one can't handle.

How is it being a single mother

It was tough at first. It took its toll on me and I didn't know how to handle it all, from sleepless nights to the nights she was sick but it's all worth it in the end, I must say. I take up all the challenges of both parents andI have to be there for her and make sure she never feels unloved.

It has its perks but I believe nothing good in this life is easy, so I do the best I can to always provide for her

How are you able to handle school, blogging, business and motherhood?

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I had to take a step back from school after my first year because of financial reasons. I have since decided to concentrate on the clothes business as I save up so that I can return to school next year, God willing. I try to balance both worlds, I always make sure whenever I am not having deliveries in town or going to buy new stock, I spend that time with my daughter bonding and doing interesting things

Why did you start blogging and I can see you are also doing something different in it from fashion... Tell me about it.

I started blogging to share my personal style. Then after birth I decided to blog about motherhood to inspire other young mums who can relate to my experiences.

How was your experience being pregnant? Would you want to go through it again?

I don't want to sound ungrateful, but it wasn't what I expected it to be. It was an eye-opener and 80% of the time I spent crying and beating myself up about many things.

What's your motivation?

Mimah, even when I'm having one of those days where I just feel like the world should swallow me alive. I see her and everything just turns around, she's my everything.

What's your view on a single mother getting back on the dating scene?

I think it's a good idea and I think she's always more exposed to what she should expect from certain individuals out there than before. There are things she wouldn't entertain and she doesn't have time to waste

Most people tend to think it's not quite the wise idea but I think as long as it’s something that won't take your mind way from what's important which is your child, single mothers should definitely give dating a chance whenever they are ready to take that step

What advice would you give to a young single mother going through it now?

Don't beat yourself up about what has already happened, accept things for what they are and just move on, put your baby's needs and yours ahead of anything else. Time heals all wounds I can attest to that, I know that's the last thing one would like to hear but coming from a woman who has been through it, believe it will all come to pass. And lastly always surrender your all to God, he's got it all figured out