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Man marries his own mother-in-law after divorcing his wife of eight years

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Clive and Brenda tied the knot in 2007 (Image: Robert Rathbone)

They have been together more than three decades, married 13 years and are still blissfully happy, despite the unconventional start to their relationship.

For Clive Blunden’s wife Brenda used to be his mother-in-law.

He was even arrested after he asked her to marry him but, undeterred, they made history when the law was changed in 2007 and they tied the knot.

It is fair to say their unusual coupling raised a few eyebrows. But 10 years on, they have no regrets.

“People thought we wouldn’t last but we are stronger than ever,” said Clive, 65.

“We’re together 24/7 and there's magic to it.”

Clive and Brenda Blunden have been together for three decades

Brenda, 77, added: “Clive is a gentleman and he looks after me. I can get a bit argumentative but he quietens me down.”

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Brenda wasn’t such a fan of Clive when he got together with her daughter Irene.

In fact, she disliked him the moment she saw him.

Clive and Irene married in 1977 and had daughters Sarah and Tanya before divorcing in 1985.

Four years later, Clive and Brenda began dating in secret.

“We fell in love,” said Brenda. “One night, he took me for a drink and we ended up kissing.”

Clive and Brenda on This Morning eight years ago (Image: Ken McKay/Shutterstock)

In 1997, they decided to marry. But a few days after they put their banns up at the register office in their hometown of Warrington, Cheshire, Clive was arrested.

He was told there was a “lawful impediment” to marrying his mother-in-law and warned he could be jailed for up to seven years if they went ahead with it.

Because Brenda’s first husband, Richard, had passed away and Irene remarried, they wrongly assumed they would be free to wed.

Instead, they had to settle for Brenda changing her surname to Clive’s by deed poll.

But this wasn’t good enough for the smitten groom-to-be, who began campaigning for the 500-year-old law to be altered.

“I thought we should be married because we had been through everything together,” he explained.

“We were being stopped unfairly. I didn’t think it was right, so I wanted to change it.”

Irene's ex-husband Clive married her mum (Image: Matthew Pover)

It was 10 years before a European court ruled a ban on in-laws marrying was a violation of human rights.

“I remember when we heard the news on the TV, in September 2005,” said Clive.

“I went down on one knee straight away and proposed to Brenda. I had tears in my eyes.”

On March 17, 2007, they finally became husband and wife at Warrington register office – the same place where Clive had married Irene 30 years earlier.

The majority of their families, including Irene, did not wish to attend. Only one distant relative sent them a congratulations card.

Clive, who serenaded Brenda with a rendition of Westlife’s ‘You Raise Me Up’, said: “It was a very emotional day.

"It had been a struggle to get to that point but it was a wonderful day and we will always remember it.”

Brenda said: “Our families didn’t come because they didn’t agree with it. But all we cared about was being with each other.”

The couple have now been together more than three decade (Image: RICHARD BLAKE)

The newlyweds headed off for a month-long honeymoon in Spain – but after hitting headlines, they were instantly recognised.

Brenda said: “We went to Benidorm thinking we’d get away from it all.

"We got to the apartments and, God help me, they all knew who we were.

"The barman said, ‘Oooh, we’ve got celebs’. But everyone was really nice about it, we had a fantastic honeymoon.”

And thankfully, married life was everything they had hoped for.

Clive said: “Marriage to Brenda has definitely changed me. I felt different straight away.

"I was more relaxed. Until we got married I felt something was missing.

“We’ve been through a lot so to come out of it the other end is an achievement.

"What made it perfect for me is we can be on our own all day and still get along. We would do it all again.”

The happy couple (Image: WENN.com)

Brenda said: “Clive is caring and lovable and he looks after me very well.

"We do argue and I think I have always been a challenge to Clive. But it is about give and take and trust.

“He does have some bad habits. His nail-biting drives me mad. I still joke about how much I disliked him when he was going out with my daughter and became my son-in-law.

“We don’t go out of our way to tell strangers how we met and when we do they don’t believe us.

"A lot of people thought it wouldn’t last but we can’t live without each other.”

On holiday to Benidorm earlier this year, Brenda had a health scare.

“Oxygen wasn’t getting to my heart and they had to put a pacemaker in,” she said.

“Thankfully, I’m doing smashing now. Clive’s my carer – he does everything for me. We’re still so happy.”

Speaking eight years ago, Irene said she had thought her relationship with Clive was for keeps and her mum “betrayed” her.

She said: “I don’t know who my mum is anymore. Clive has split our family. I’ll never forgive him.”

Brenda said she has tried to reconcile.

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