Most women will tell you gone are the days when a man held the door for you, pulled your chair so you could sit, or waited for you to pass instead of squeezing you at the doorway.
A recent Facebook post caught the eye of thousands of women when it sought their opinion on these gentleman-like habits.
The post, which garnered more than 4,000 comments asked women if they still liked it when their men performed ‘old-fashioned’ gestures.
“Do women still like it when men open doors for them, surprise them with unexpected nice things and take them on dates?” the post read.
Women came out in droves majority of whom said they indeed liked it when the men in their lives did these things.
“Yes, women appreciate you going out of your way to open a door, or any other gesture you might do,” said one woman. “I appreciate it when someone opens the door for me, and I always say thank you!”
“Yes!! I got these today for no particular reason,” wrote a second woman sharing a photo of a bouquet of flowers she had received.
A life-long habit
There are instances where the relationship starts off with random gifts and frequent acts of kindness but then, as time wears on, these habits simply fade away. That was not the case for this lady.
“We’ve been married 10 years, together 13 and we still go on dates, hold hands, have make out sessions in the car and romantic getaways. We smile and give each other that look. Lol! You’ve got to keep it fresh with love.”
Another wrote, “My husband and I still feel the same way we did when we first met. That was 46 years ago. We still hug and kiss. I’m so blessed. We treat each other well with trust and love.”
No expectations
While some women said that they expected such treatment from a man, others said that it was simply nice to have a man do them.
“I don’t expect it but when I see it, I appreciate it,” commented another woman.
Equal treatment
Some women pointed out that they too perform these gestures for their men, proving that men too deserve to be treated well.
“I do the same things for mine. Both of you need to put in an effort. You must both treat each other with love and respect. Men also want to feel special and loved,” wrote another.
Good manners
You might call it being a gentleman but for a number of women, these kind gestures all came down to good manners.
“I also think it’s a matter of manners and that it also works both ways,” said one user.
“I’ll hold a door open for a man as well, any man, if I get to the door before them. I also treat my husband and of course, take him on dates,” responded another.
No cost
Good manners, it is said, are free. Thus, some women pointed out that these kind gestures don’t necessarily have to cost a thing.
“It doesn’t have to cost much. Sometimes the little acts of kindness mean the most,” said one woman.
Not a sign of weakness
In case you were worried that a man doing this for you is a sign that as women we are a lesser sex, this user had a thought-provoking reply.
“I can get my own car door, but everyone deserves to know they are cherished. Both men and women.”
What’s your take? Does your man perform these kind gestures? What’s your response when he does?
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