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Confessions: I caught friend making drunken pass at hubby on first night out after lockdown

 She was touching my husband and leaning into him, while he stood there like a lemon (Shutterstock)


The other night, my husband and I went out for dinner to a local pub with two other couples, who we’ve known for a few years.

It was the first time any of us had been out in a while because of the lockdown, so spirits were high and a lot of spirits were consumed, too.

I was driving, so only had one glass of wine, but everyone else got plastered.

At one point, one of the women grabbed my husband to go outside the tent for a cigarette. I ended up following a couple of minutes later, as they’d left the lighter on the table.

When I saw them, this woman was touching my husband and leaning into him, while he stood there like a lemon. She was clearly making a play for him and, when she saw me, she pulled away and went back to the table.

I didn’t say anything that night and then she texted me the next day to ­apologise and made the excuse that she was drunk and hoped I’d forget about it and that we could still be friends.

My husband is a bit bemused by the whole thing, but said he didn’t think it was worth making a big deal of it.

It’s playing on my mind, though, and I feel hurt that she would behave like this with my husband when we’re supposed to be friends. What do you think – am I making too much of it?

 She didn't say anything the night she caught her friend - who then texted her the next day to ­apologise (Image: Getty)


The old “I was drunk” excuse – well, I’m not buying it.

I don’t think you can blame the booze – it might have given her the Dutch courage to act on her feelings, but if she didn’t fancy your hubby, I’m not sure a few drinks would have led her to making a play for him.

She was sober enough to invite him for a cigarette and then to pull away from him when you showed up.

So, I don’t think you’re making too much of it and I understand why you’re hurt.

I would also understand if you stopped bothering with her and focused on your other friends because what she did isn’t what friends do.

You don’t have to make a big deal of it, but just distance yourself from her socially from now on.

You have to work out how important she is to you as a friend and if it’s worth having a bigger conversation about it to see if you can move on.

It might be that she’s just shown her true colours, however.


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