My boyfriend won’t propose

Dear Coleen,

I’ve been with my boyfriend for three years and I’m hoping to get married one day. However, he just won’t commit.

He’s very ambitious and always puts his work before me.

All of our friends are getting married but when I asked him if he has thought about us doing so, he said we probably won’t for several years.

I’m 27 and want to have at least two children, so why should I be prepared to wait that long to start a family?

Should I stay in the hope that he’ll eventually propose, or just cut my losses and dump him for somebody who does want a future with me?

Please help.

Coleen says.

Calm down! To be honest, it just sounds like you want somebody to give you a big white wedding and two kids.

So many young women today go to their friends’ weddings and think, “I want this” without actually thinking about what marriage entails.

If you love him, you should be prepared to wait until he’s ready.

Do you want to spend the rest of your life with him no matter what?

Or do you – as I suspect – just want a nice house filled with a couple of kids so you can tick them off your to-do list?

Remember that you could dump him tomorrow and never meet anybody else that a) you like or b) likes you enough to propose.

You’re young so just enjoy your life and stop pressuring your man.

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