Confessions:My husband claims I smell and now won't get intimate

My husband and I have beeen together for four years now and our marriage has been good to say the least apart from one disturbing thing. For a bout a year now, he keeps telling me I have  a funny smell. Sometimes I can detect a distant smell, but he makes it sound really bad to the extent that we no longer have foreplay during sex. I have tried everything including using roll on and I shower everyday but he says the smell is still there. I am embarrased by this and have even lost self confidence since I cannot help but wonder how many people actually pick up the smell. I dont know what to do about this but i am worried our intimacy is headed south, please help me.….

Your Take

Susan, you must be going through a rough time. You might have a medical condition that can be diagnosed and treated sooner than you think. Your husband should be thinking of how to help you walk out of the embarrassment for you to get your esteem back. Also try bathing with non-cosmetic soaps. But for now, just treat it like a medical condition that is treatable.

{Ouma Ragumo, Sifuyo}

Maybe your husband is playing hide-and-seek. A good husband helps in shaping his wife to become a unique and adorable woman. You should sit down and discuss the issue and consult a medical expert, this could be a small problem.

{Vincent Arjen, Sega}

Your problem may not be as bad as you imagine. Sometimes our psyche plays games with us. This could also be the case with your husband. Share this with your closest female friend and ask her to be sincere. Seek the services of a gynaecologist. Remember this is a recent problem, meaning it is only temporary.

{Tasma Charles}

Go to hospital for thorough medical examination. There has to be a cause! Your condition will be treated and soon things will get back to normal. Don’t be embarrassed. It’s not your fault but deal with it soon.

(Zachy Jarapogi}

You have lived with this man for four years and he has never complained. His complaint may be genuine or fake. However, you need to see a gynaecologist and make sure your are thorough with your personal hygiene. Avoid scented lotion and soaps. Your husband should be the first person to help you seek help. Didn’t he marry you for good and bad times?

{Onyango Outha Jauduny}