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Woman ditched by text before wedding becomes mum alone thanks to sperm donor

Jade Edgington at home in Solihull with baby Eden (Image: Caters News)

A young woman who was dumped via text just months before her wedding day has become a mum thanks to a sperm donor.

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Jade Edgington was just six months away from her big day when the groom-to-be had a change of heart and shattered her dream of a fairytale ending.

The business development manager spent the summer of 2018 holidaying to take her mind off the break-up but her desire to be a mum never went away.

After being diagnosed with polycystic ovary syndrome, the 30-year-old knew her chances of conceiving naturally were slim and that she'd need IVF one day.

Jade, from Birmingham, West Mids, then made the bold decision to become a single parent with the help of IVF and a sperm donor.

She says her life is now 'complete' after giving birth to Eden last year on July 19.

Jade Edgington just after giving birth to baby Eden (Image: Caters News)

Jade says: "I had known for a few years I had polycystic ovary syndrome which meant that my ovaries had a lot of cysts all over them.

"My then partner seemed to be on the exact same wavelength and spoke about children and marriage from the very start.

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"I felt like everything I had ever been waiting for was coming true.

"Until he randomly texted me to say he didn't want to be with me - my entire world came crashing down.

"But that didn't stop me from wanting to become a mum and it was the best decision I have ever made.

"I don't have any regrets about doing this on my own and I feel like she has made me into the person I was always supposed to be."

Jade Edgington showing off her bump while pregnant (Image: Caters News)

Jade was initially thrilled when her ex popped the question - nine months into their relationship and the pair went on to book their wedding for July 2018.

Jade recalls being on cloud nine in 'coocoo land' when booking her dream honeymoon to Thailand and Bali.

But as the six month countdown approached, Jade's ex-fiance got cold feet.

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She said: "He just changed his mind, as simple as that but kept me hanging for six weeks until he made his mind up about wanting to be with me or not.

"I was on a shoestring just wanting him to love me. I was distraught and genuinely broken.

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Jade Edgington in labour (Image: Caters News)

"I put on a brave face when at work or with my friends and family but when I got home, I would sob and sob.

"But eventually I realised I deserve to be with someone who wants to be with me.

"I wasn't willing to put myself into that situation ever again nor wait another few months or years to meet 'the one'.

"I was still focussed on becoming a mum, even if it meant doing it alone."

According to the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence fertility guidelines it is broadly recognised that single women are not eligible for IVF on the NHS.

After thorough research, she found a clinic in Northern Spain and her journey to motherhood began.

She adds: "It was such a big decision and I had no idea where to find a clinic that is going to be the best at sucking my eggs out and sticking them back in fertilised!

Jade Edgington just after giving birth to baby Eden (Image: Caters News)

"A friend had been to a different clinic in Spain but the country seemed to have higher success rates and was much cheaper.

"I found Manzanera Fertility Clinic in Northern Spain, and had my consultation via Skype in August [2018].

"I didn't want to feel under pressure so I decided to keep it a secret from everyone but my dad Brian, 60, who accompanied me to the clinic in October 2018."

Jade forked out Sh881, 000 (£7,000) of her savings to pay for IVF and she was able to get IVF medication in the UK.

The clinic matched her characteristics to a sperm donor's to ensure her baby looked like her.

She had three eggs fertilised but a pregnancy test two weeks later revealed one had stuck.

Jade slams strangers who have branded her 'selfish' for being a single mum of choice but she 'couldn't disagree more'.

"We live in a diverse world, some children have two mums, two dads or sadly end up in foster care - despite having a mum and a dad.

"She will know she was born out of pure love and joy."

 

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