How to know you are too emotionally dependent on your partner

Your partner is not your engine and to have a good relationship, both of you must be self-propelled (Shutterstock)

Being emotionally dependent can be a flip to any relationship. A relationship is meant to involve giving and sharing love. When dependent, the relationship is controlled from one person's needs and ways instead of merging the needs of the two of you.

Read on to find some of the ways you can know you are too emotionally dependent on your partner.

You give up your likes and needs for theirs

You liked playing badminton and was even preparing for the local tournament. Then now you've ditched it and hopped onto video games only because it makes your partner happy.

When you are too dependent, you will find yourself throwing away the things that brought you joy at the expense of your partner's preferences. This, unfortunately, makes you stop being true to yourself and your innate desires and feelings.

Your happiness depends on your partner's mood

When you find out that you are always trying to change your mood based on your partner's, then it's already going the unhealthy relationship way. Whereas it's okay to empathize with your partner as you share in similar joys and pains, basing your emotional reactions on theirs makes you dependent. You will no longer find yourself being genuine in your raw state, but always having to camouflage depending on the tune your partner decides to play.

A relationship is meant to involve giving and sharing love (Shutterstock)

Changing your physical self and personality based on their preferences

There is nothing wrong with buying that clothe your partner thinks you'd look gorgeous in. However, when it gets to the point where you have to change your physical appearance and acquire totally different habits that change your personality so as to please them, then it's off. Making such changes should not be in bid to emotionally satisfy your partner but should be for your own good. It's meant to be a personal decision, first.

Extreme jealousy when they offer others attention

You can't take it when your partner is offering their attention to others. You seem to always need them around. If this is the case, your emotional cup is always running dry and needing a refill from your partner only. It's better if you socialize with other people too instead of only depending on your partner for conversation and edification.

Can't do anything without your partner

If you've been finding excuses lately for the things you were meant to do alone, giving your partner's absence as an excuse, you're extremely emotionally dependent. Your partner is not your engine and to have a good relationship, both of you must be self-propelled.

You can seek counselling to be able to get a hang of being emotionally upright where you get to be self-sufficient. Being emotionally independent is a pathway to getting into obsessive love.