How to have the ‘the talk’ with your partner

Now, now, now. *rubs hands together*

This is an important conversation to have especially when you have a new partner before you do the deed. You know, people assume that ‘The Talk’ is only meant for kids, that period in their life when they ask “where do babies come from?” and you have to give them the birds and the bees talk. It’s quite uncomfortable, I’ve come to learn. I never got the talk myself but that’s a story for another day. Adults also need to have ‘The Talk’. In our case, the talk isn’t to teach us about sex, we know that already, it’s about what we like in sex.  Many people have less than pleasurable sex lives and that is a damn shame. Life is too short not to experience the full scope of sexual pleasure from your partner. This is how you go about introducing ‘The Talk’:

1. Rip the band-aid off This approach is the easiest and fastest way to bring up the topic. Straight and clean. If you're already been intimate, it could go like this, “Babe, I think we should talk about our sex life. It's good, but it could be better....” During this discussion, you and Mr Sir will deliberate on what you enjoy in bed and what you can live without. Some people go into it blind or just with the knowledge they’ve collected over time. Although we may be of the same species, we don’t enjoy sex the same way. So, rip the bad aid off like a big girl and have the talk. Just don’t bash Mr Sir. Remember these beings have very fragile egos.

2. Buy a book, ‘the book’ If you don’t get what book I’m talking about then we have a problem here. Buy the book that contains all the secrets to sex, well maybe not all, but the secrets range in the thousands. Illusive enough? I’m talking about the Kamasutra book. This book comes with all the nifty positions that you may have known exist. Although missionary is always a safe go-to, it can get boring quite quickly. Open the pages and look at positions like the flying dutchman and ask Mr Sir if he is willing to try. It’s quite an interesting book to peruse through and it will for sure give you ideas.

3. Subtle hints (Goodluck!) From my previous articles, we’ve all come to learn that men and subtle hints...different WhatsApp group. The male species don’t take well to hints. But there are a few out there that with enough persistence get the hang of what you are trying to put across. How to be subtle about it? That’s upto you, I don’t do subtle, can’t help you there. Just kidding, you could maybe put on a TV show such as Power (Ghost..omg), the show is riddled with steamy scenes that could help you in bringing up the conversation. Ghost could be laying the pipe properly and you make a comment like ‘that seems like fun’ and nine times out of ten Mr Sir will turn to you and say ‘wanna try?’ and just like that, you have found your entry way.

Now ladies, follow these tips and you are bound to reach cloud 12 not even nine.