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‘All is fair in love and war’ they like to say, but when one decides to step out of the sanctity that is a monogamous relationship, several aspects of life are distorted. The initial shock of infidelity from a partner or spouse can cause more adverse effects than just endless sobs into your pillow at night. With time, the pain does decrease, but one is never really the same again. Having risen from the depths of depression caused by heartache, here are some ways you can recover from infidelity:
1. Mourn the loss
Just like we mourn the passing on of loved ones, mourn the loss of your relationship. The circumstances around the loss
2. You are not to blame
This may seem like a statement straight out of Pinterest but you are not to blame. No matter what condition your relationship was in, you are not to blame for your significant other deciding to cheat. He/she chose consciously to be unfaithful. Their brain made the decision for them and they went ahead. You had nothing to do with it. Your partner/spouse may try to turn the tables on you and play the victim but the only victim here is you. He/she has no right to blame you for something they did.
3. What next?
4. Journey to forgiveness
An old saying states ‘forgiveness isn’t necessarily for the
5. Talk to someone
This may seem daunting but talking to someone about what you’re going through helps in the healing process. Talking to a third party who has no relation to your life such as a psychologist or relationship expert can help you streamline your thoughts. A qualified practitioner has the tools
These are but some ways to help you recover from infidelity but the healing process is not easy. Take as much time as you need and seek help. Don’t WADE the treacherous waters alone. A problem shared is half solved.
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