Looking cheap for who? Sex has no written rules!!

Truth be told the first stages of perusing somebody or vice versa is as much fun as it is laborious. This is when you notice he is the duff among his friends and duck him too quick. This is when you notice how unconsciously he picks his nose and swabs his finger on his jeans. Practically the little things he does that you find weird. Oh well, you are getting to know each other and you can’t complain.

This is that period you contemplate whether it’s the right time to have sex with him or wait another 2-3 months, not to look cheap. Society labels it promiscuous, but is a woman not supposed to watch out for her future sex life? Why wait for three months then finally land yourself a sexless human being with pre-ejaculation syndrome? Aren’t you supposed to be fully informed of his art so as to decide whether it’s good enough to keep? Or are we women supposed to suffer unsatisfied and in silence?

Sex has no schedule, we are biologically wired to just go with the flow when it comes to that, just be more sexually approachable when the moment comes. The fact that you wait three months to sexually discover your partner may be risky as well as surprising. However much naivety tickets it as safe, its only safe until it’s sorry. Ever come across big talk men? These are the type that brag about how galactic their manhood is and vividly express how bad they’d want to split you up to express their art. Truth be told, most of such situations lead to a buzz kill. And as a woman the earlier you deal with disappointments as petty as such, the better it is for your cookie. Well, this is the part you may choose to voice your sexual concerns or dress up and pretend to have a busy schedule for the rest of your life.

It goes without saying that men hate their egos bruised, especially on bedroom matters. But that doesn’t mean women should be silent because a man can not pick up a men’s magazine and seek some how-to advice, or at least venture into one of those pop-up porn ads. Well, curiosity doesn’t necessarily kill the cat, or if it does, at least it learned one more lesson like, there is nothing, as ugly as a naked man in socks.

Problem is, men love to think they have it all in control until there is confusion about where to take their teeth when they stray lower where the pleasant fountains lie. Or when the assumption is, ‘rough is the way to go’.

Relationships don’t thrive based on how much time you took to comfortably walk naked to the kitchen and service yourself a glass of juice. The best relationships, could begin with jumping into bed with the enchanted stranger, or while having your S&M taboo thrills, or while trying to feed your ménage a’ trios fantasies. There are no written rules to follow. Its almost similar to two strangers getting married three months into the relationship with no prior knowledge of each other. The adventure is as mysterious as is fantastic. Taste the waters little girl, before if gets to your eyes and you realize its too salty. Wait, this is not me saying ‘Go girl! Redefine promiscuity!’ no no no, I’m simply saying, there are no rules once you are already doing it, quit guilt tripping.