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Divorced Mum? How about a Divorced dad?

Marriage Advice

 

Divorce is one of life’s most confusing passages. It is painful for the spouse who wants it and the one who feels rejected. Painful for the children. Emotional winter becomes a path and every party begin to navigate their own paths by whatever routes seem most familiar and comfortable. However, take note that the road this road hasn’t fallen away beneath your feet. It has merely been repaved.

There is no more difficult challenge and devastating an experience to a father than finding himself divorced and no longer living with the kids. While each situation is unique and different, effectively managing it is a challenge but its breakthrough pivots on some common filaments in approach and attitude.

 

Decontaminate your emotions

Being a successful divorced dad inevitably involves separating the emotional issues from the factual ones, this way, you can make choices that help continue playing an important healthy role in the children’s lives. Maintaining a good relationship with the children despite being divorced from their mother is an extra burden to bear but not a choice. In fact, a man doesn’t have to bear children to have the ability to nurture. The truth is that there is nothing a mother can do that a father can’t. Okay, there is one thing, but that is why they sell formula and breast-like feeding bottles.

 

 

The evolution of parenting schedule 

How better a dad will be after divorce is a concern most deal with. However, this is an opportunity to bond with your children in a way quite frankly, that you could never have done in the shadow of their mom.

We don’t own our children. They’re with us for a limited time of their life and when you have to share your children with someone else, it changes the entire dynamic of your relationship with your kids and your view of them later on.

There may be extenuating circumstances like work pressure or whatever else, but to a child, they don’t substance. If and when you make a commitment to be at an event for your son or daughter, do whatever it takes to be there for them. This is the only way forward if you want to be a dad who is relevant and close to his children even after divorce.

Shaking it off

More often than not, societies are motivated by an inbred striving for self-esteem that is largely part fostered by the approval of others around them, we all seek approval. Part of the innate moral code that has been a sense of what is just and proper suddenly suffers a severe falloff and our exuberance turn into fear, for divorce maybe perceived as a taboo and you feel disengaged and disapproved of. Shake off this conundrum! Remember, while your marriage is ending, the family unit will continue for a lifetime and your children will need you in their lives as a co-parent.

 

With the stress of a divorce, you may feel pressured to make uninformed decisions that pertain to shared parental responsibility, child custody, a time sharing plan, or support payments. Learn your rights in measured brave strides.

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