Dear Ex Boyfriend...

“Dear Ex-Boyfriend,

It has been a long while since you and I spoke, and rightfully so, I do however hope that you are alright, and that you hate me less than you did a month ago, and even less so than you did three months ago.

It is no secret that I miss our little adventures, but it is also not a secret that I do not miss our arguments and all the bickering, well maybe I miss some of the arguments.

I know that this is long overdue and I should have said this to you months ago, but I am a bit too proud to actually do, and you know this. Anyway, when we met, you were, well, just another guy who honestly I couldn’t really care to be bothered with, then you were less annoying, then you were nice, then you were really nice.

Then you asked me out, and we went for our first date, which was terrible by the way, the food tasted funny and it rained, but it was lovely.

To be honest with, I truly thought I was ready for all the excitement that comes with dating, the adventures, the laughs, the dates, the long phone calls and just the opportunity to call someone my “boyfriend”. But we both knew I wasn’t ready, yet we still dated in denial of both our realities.

You were looking for a distraction in the form of a girlfriend, and I was looking for a best friend. You wanted someone to talk to and someone to tell you that everything will be alright, and maybe some other benefits relationships bring with them. And maybe I was looking for the same.

But in all truth, you and I know that we both ruined each other, for our relationship as well as for the potential relationships to come. We made each other hate each other, and love each other, but that just made us hate each other more.

I hurt you and you hurt, but for my part, I apologize. I cannot take it back and neither can you.

But we’ll make it through, apart of course, we will make it through, so good luck.”

That right there, is a load off.

Ever felt like you have unfinished business with that ex-boyfriend, regardless of who broke up with who, cause there’s no such thing as mutually agreed, one of you wanted that relationship to end and just made it seem like it was both your idea.

See, I had felt like this was hanging over me for the longest time and I sure as hell know that I am not the only one.

Break ups are usually hard. Sometimes not, sometimes we get closure, and sometimes we eat ice cream and sit in cars hiding from our exes as they go on dates with the new girl, after which we stalk her, sometimes we rebound and sometimes we just move on.

I’ve been through it, you’ve been through it, that girl over there has been through it, we’ve all been through it.

So eat as much Ice cream as you need and maybe add a few shots of brandy so it goes down smoothly and be patient till you get that closure…..