5 tips to help you get back to basics in your love life
It can be easy to let things slide by when you’re unhappy in your love life. But grab the bull by the horns and get things back to how they were when you were at your happiest. It’s never too late (most of the time).
1 Make time for each other
Put aside at least one day a week for both of you.
If you have children, it’s easy to get wrapped up in the kids’ lives, your job, your family, your friends and forget about your partner.
If you can’t spare a day, just spend an hour together in the park or the pub to remind each other why you’re together.
2 Lay the ground rules
If your home life is getting out of control, this is a good starting point and can be especially effective if you have children, either toddlers or teenagers.
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So many things can stress you out at home and this way you can learn to stick together. Also, share the jobs around the house. Make each other’s life easier.
3 Be sweet
Do something little to show how much your partner means to you.
I’ll see a card which says exactly what I want to say, so I buy it.
Try leaving a Post-it note on the fridge with a little message. It doesn’t have to be anything sloppy. It could just be ‘See you later’. At least it shows you are thinking of them.
Understand your partner and if he or she is quite emotional, respond to that need. For me, I love to hear the words: ‘I love you’.
4 Have a chat
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It’s easy to slump in front of the television after a day at work or looking after the children but try not to do it every evening.
You must not forget how to communicate because once you stop discussing the little things, it’s a slippery slope. It doesn’t have to be a big talk about life, just about your day at work or holiday plans.
And it may sound old-fashioned but I do believe in not going to bed on an argument. Try to sort out any disagreements before going to bed.
5 If it’s not working, be realistic
If you’re sitting opposite someone at the table and you’re really not happy, never think you can’t move on.
Don’t stay with someone to please everyone else because life is too short. It’s brave to admit when a relationship is over, but if it’s not working, walk away.