I had a vasectomy, but my wife is pregnant

Dear Harold,

I am sure my wife is having an affair because she recently got pregnant, yet I have no ability to sire. I did a vasectomy three months ago after we settled on it as a family planning measure. I resolved to undergo vasectomy because my wife was reacting to many modern family planning methods, including implants. I feel betrayed and I am contemplating my next legal action as I seek an exit strategy in this untrustworthy marriage. I am even more disgusted that my wife insists that she is not having an affair.

Joseph, Nairobi.

Dear Joseph,

Family disputes do not have to be taken to court. Family lawyers encourage spouses to settle disputes out of court, which is a faster alternative dispute resolution mechanism. It may also not be right to accuse your wife of having an affair that has led to her pregnancy unless there is a medical report from a doctor. There could be chances of a slight medical error during the vasectomy.

Another challenge is to prove adultery in court. Many divorce cases have been dismissed after the alleging spouse failed to prove their assertions. In many cases, courts rely on circumstantial evidence. For instance, when a child is born out of the normal nine months and there was no opportunity for spouses to have sexual intercourse, then adultery may be inferred. Another presumption of adultery is when a husband or wife is infected with a sexually transmitted infection — married spouses who are faithful should not suffer from a venereal disease. Another assumption of adultery is in the case of a come-we-stay relationship because it is assumed that it gives either of the partners a chance to the act.

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