Gone are the times where couples grew up, got married, and lived in the same locality without staying away from each other. These days’ long-distance relationships (a.k.a LDR) are on the rise because of education, career, and other obligations. Couples can spend months or even years apart in different towns, cities, and parts of the world. If you’re in one now or ever wondered if it actually works, you are not alone. This is one of the most asked questions about relationships. If you are willing and committed to making it work, then here are some tips to assist.
Both of you must believe that the relationship will work. A common issue that destroys most LDRs is that they move forward but become skeptical along the way. You start to question whether it will work out, and some of your friends or family might discourage you from taking it seriously. This kind of attitude will destroy the relationship even before it begins. There will be insecurities and fears of what might go wrong but choose to focus on the love that you both share and the positive outcome.
This is very crucial for both of you. When there is little or no communication, it leads to overthinking and anxiety about what your partner could be doing without you. If you’ve scheduled a specific time to talk or video chat with them, then make it a priority as you would any other meeting. Try to update them on your life and its happenings. Making such an effort shows that you care and love them no matter how far apart they might be. Avoid excessive communication instead set specific days and time that work for both of you.
Fun and Intimacy.
You may be questioning, how is it possible yet you are so far apart? Just because you are thousands of miles apart doesn’t mean that you can’t have fun together. Having intimate moments is possible, like planning a date night video call. It does seem awkward at first, but you’ll get used to it as long as you are open-minded and have fun doing it. Just set up a date and time as you would in real life. Get dressed up, set up your candlelight dinner, and video call when ready. Please note, it would be better if you did the setup at the privacy of your home than in a public restaurant to avoid any distractions. You could also play an online game or sing karaoke duet to songs you both love. These are creative and spontaneous ways to maintain a healthy level of closeness for lack of being able to be there physically.
Visit each other.
This is the highlight of every LDR couple. After all the waiting and yearning, you finally get to meet each other to do all the little things like holding hands, hugging, and so on. Try and make time to visit each other as often as you can. Meet away from home or choose a place that is halfway between both of you. It is important to see each other in person at every opportunity.
What are your future plans? How long will we be apart? Such questions are important and need to be discussed. The truth is, no couple wants to be in an LDR forever. Make a plan with each other on the end goal of the relationship. By being on the same page about it, both of you are motivated to work together in the same direction towards a better future.
Don’t measure the distance, measure the love.