How to survive a bad breakup

A nasty breakup is something you wouldn’t wish even on your worst enemy.

To imagine losing someone you have loved, invested in and dedicated your emotions to is unfathomable.

However, as horrible as it may be, there is a way out. You can dodge the booze and emotional breakdown, and transition back into singlehood gracefully.

It won’t be easy but you can start here:

Going through a breakup is similar to grieving. You literally go through different stages like denial.

But, the sooner you accept that your relationship is done, the sooner you start recovering. This will help you avoid crawling back to your ex or stalking them obsessively.

This is a simple tip that really works. Don’t pretend to be a macho man or a strong independent woman because deep down, your emotions will let you know how you really feel.

You will need to take some time to go through those crushing emotions and letting it out might actually be what you need at this time. You shouldn’t force yourself to hold back the tears because you will feel more overwhelmed.

There are those breakups that don’t hurt that much and there are others that feel completely horrible. There are different levels because a relationship that lasted weeks doesn’t necessarily feel the same as an engagement or a long term relationship.

If you’re going through a serious breakup, it would be better to open up to someone. Contact a therapist, reach out to a counsellor at your church or let a friend know what you’re going through.

A common response that people often have after a breakup is rebound relationships. They might soothe the painful feeling for a short time but after a while, you will end up feeling even emptier inside.

Rebound relationships aren’t healthy for you or the person you’re basically using. You need some time for yourself right now to get enough clarity before making any moves.

The best way to recover is to use your time wisely. You need a minute to let the emotions out but you shouldn’t spend so much time feeling sorry for yourself.

Instead of staying in bed all day checking if your ex is already dating someone new, you should try and sign up to a gym or try out that new hobby you have been putting off for years.