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Driving into marriage with your hand-brake up?

Relationships
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It’s that time of the year again when single women like me, who were once knocking at marriage’s door look back and ask God where we went wrong. At the beginning of the year, most of us were certain we would get married before the year ended.

In fact, getting married was one of our 2016 resolutions. Now, we look back and wonder where exactly the rain started beating us.

Somewhere in-between, the gods of break ups, pride and cheating invaded our lives and we ended up at square one. Majority of us were in very serious relationships at the beginning of the year, some were lucky enough to hit the jackpot of them all, Valentine’s Day, and ended up being showered with everything and anything.

On the other hand, many of us were shown the door barely days before Valentine’s. Then there are those of us who were in wedding line ups, unions that never saw the light of the day. If only these men knew the magnitude of imagining ourselves in weddings gowns, maybe they would never mention the topic unless they are sure it will happen.

Look at how miserable some of us are now. Of course, we are going to put on that brave face and lie that we don’t care but deep down, we are hoping to turn into a poisonous swarm of bees and sting anyone and everyone who interfered with our love lives.

These men have turned wedding preparations into one of those things that you work on forever, like entering the kingdom of God. I have a friend who has been planning her wedding for four years and still there are no signs of it happening soon.

What part of planning a wedding goes beyond two years? In fact two years is far-fetched. Are you buying an item per year or what? I would wish to plan my wedding for less than a year.

 I dread anxiety and subjecting me to years of anxiety in the name of planning a wedding is enough to make me stop loving you. You are not going to make me pray for perfect weather for years.

Unless it’s for very serious reasons, do not postpone our wedding, that only gives us room to find something worth breaking us up. I have seen people break up before their wedding day for very stupid reasons, like change of venue or even color theme.

What’s in a color anyway? Will the change of color make the cake stale or will it cause a heavy downpour? Given a chance, I wouldn’t worry about anything being changed as long as the date and groom remain the same.

This is basically the reason most single ladies are going to cross over to 2017 without a ring on it. Someone else snatched their grooms before the wedding day or the wedding was pushed to next year.

My dear, if yours was pushed to next year, brace yourself for another year without a ring. Chances are, it will be pushed again and the excuse will be as lame as the word ‘elections’, don’t say I did not warn you.

So as the year quickly comes to an end, let us all come into an agreement that this is the last time we are being short-changed by the men we love. We shall not be intimidated by change of anything regarding the wedding as long as the groom is the same.

 You can slice the budget, change the venue, fire the planner or even change the color theme but leave the love of my life out of it because this time it’s going down!

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